Because I'm the blacksheep in my family, I constantly feel the need to prove to my family that I'm capable of everything they are. Sometimes I feel that this strange obsession controls major decisions of my life, for example, I recently got into 3 different schools, and I wanted to go to Andover in reality, but knowing that Exeter had a reputation as a stricter school, I chose it so that I can "prove myself" to my family.
Should I continue to let this force motivate me?
2007-04-11 01:03:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No.
Allowing others to indirectly control your life will make your life very unhappy. Accept the fact you are different and become the best you can be.
Being the black sheep is tough and you always feel like an outsider anyway.
2007-04-11 01:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are on a long road to nowhere, Sweety....you simply will not be able to please everyone, and family folks are the hardest of all....please Self! This happens to be YOUR life now...they have their lives...do you like what you see? Then fine, emulate, but don't allow it to dictate...you have your own choices, your own dreams, your own way to go...and if you are the happy one, let them see that happy. And if this is not sufficient to them...oh well! It floats YOUR boat...and that's what truly counts.
If you allow such to control your moves, you will find this problem in all your relationships, whether personal or business...you will never find YOU in any of it...your accomplishments will not reflect the Who & What of YOU, they will be what others did through you...Is that what you want?
If not, make your choices, go through your consequences of such, learn & then teach....but in all things, let your moves reflect YOU...the person YOU are and the one you are becoming...amaze yourself and you will amaze others...at least those that truly love you. Good Journey---enjoy it!
2007-04-11 02:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by MsET 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in the end your family only wants what is good for you and if they feel that Exeter is better for you why would you want to go anywhere else
2007-04-11 01:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by SunShine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read motivational books where personalities are analysed.you will realise that when you are able to allign your own happiness and please your familyat the same time ,the balance will be the perfect way.
spend quality time in the family sphere and ultimately it is what you want that will make your family happy because only that will be longlasting.
take care
2007-04-11 01:43:15 · answer #4 · answered by bubbly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. Make your decisions based on your own discernment. That is the only way for you to reach your full potential: when you do things because you think that that is best for you.
2007-04-11 01:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by blackboard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"You are the only one who can live your life".....
Why would you be making life altering decisions based on what other people want or think?
being a "people pleaser" to gain love and respect of others is a major life issue you must evolve beyond.
You must learn to be who you are from your hearts desire, not what you think others want you to be.
IT is not an easy task but what you came here to overcome.
2007-04-11 02:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, this is an awful thing. Don't let your family rule your life, it will only ruin it for you. Follow your heart and your own desires. Don't worry about them, and their feelings, they haven't worried about yours. They'll get over it in the end.
2007-04-11 01:08:51 · answer #7 · answered by xian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allowing anyone but God to run your life will ultimately lead to resentment and a lot of lost time. Take the high and short road instead! :)
2007-04-12 01:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by Last Ent Wife (RCIA) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your family run your life...They need to realize you are your own person and need to live your own life. Your family needs to accept you for who your are and not what they think is best for you. IT IS YOUR LIFE YOU DECIDE HOW TO LIVE IT!
Go live it ...if they don't like it they can get over it. You do what makes you happy...They are welcome to offer advice but, it is your decision what you do. They have to live with that.
Good Luck!
2007-04-11 02:13:11 · answer #9 · answered by Amber G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is stressful.. You don't need to prove anything to your family.. They do understand your strength and weakness. Just be who you are as long as you don't embarass them.
2007-04-11 01:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by AdultMALE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋