The Situation:
I live in a student house with 3 girls and 4 boys (myself being the 4th girl). Most of us come from the same town, however I am the oldest. I am trying to become close friends with one of the girls in my house (Cathy*). Yesterday I found out that Cathy's boyfriend (who lives in our hometown) has cheated on her. I didn't see it, but everybody I live with knows (except Cathy). Should I tell her?
Pro's:
If I tell her it may strengthen our friendship
I was grateful when I was told about my ex's cheating
Con's:
If it comes out where I heard from she'll be upset with that girl who will in turn be upset with me.
Cathy also knows the other girl in her boyfriend's life and this girl visits our house regularly.
If it comes out that I told Cathy no-one will trust me with the gossip anymore.
I didn't see the cheating happen, just heard of it (but I'm 85% sure it's true - judging from those involved).
If you think I should tell her - How should I go about it?
2007-04-11 00:30:35 · 10 answers · asked by Ashleigh L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be 100% sure and then sing to the high heavens. She will find out somehow someday and imagine how she will feel when she finds out all her friends kept quiet and allowed her to be humiliated? Bugger the gossip thing, the truth is more important. And as for how, just say, keep it quick and simple - "I'm sorry but I have some bad news, your boyfriend cheated on you" It's then up to her.
2007-04-11 00:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by cobra 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If Cathy is your friend first you should be 100% sure that her noy friend is a two timing. Let her see herself that her boyfriend cheats on her. She must be the one to discover it with a litlle help from you than tell her because base from experience a girl/boy in love is blind. She'll confront her boyfriend and the guy will just deny it. In the end she'll hate you. If she catches her boyfriend with the other girl you are there to console her and just be a friend. Both girls should know what kind of a person that boy is and not worth loving.
2007-04-11 00:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jean A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know that even if it is a good possibility it is true. it still could be false. A good friend will not help promote gossip but be there during a fallout if one should arise.
If her boyfriend has cheated it will come out because it always does and when it does she will need a friend who will give her the attention she will need to get over him. If she questions you about if you knew you can say i heard a nasty rumor and you really couldn't believe it was true.
2007-04-11 00:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by Savage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so... Cuz if u tell her... like u said, first she will be upset and she will be mad or angry at u, i think! Because if u tell her she willl be asking u lot of questions like 'did u see him cheating on me, who is this girl do i know her? And lots and lots of questions... U couldn't just tell her 'Oh yes i'm sure because I just heard of it!'. And I think that u better leave it to Cathy, let her be the one to find out or handle it. Ok. Alright!
2007-04-11 00:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny Crawford 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 14:52:10 · answer #5 · answered by rosen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good list of pros and cons, thats a great way to solve most problems. Your con list tells me that you risk a very uncomfortable living situation if you tell her. I would "let sleeping dogs lie" and not tell her. She will probably eventually find out. You can strengthen your friendship with her in other ways. Unless you are prepared to move out soon, I would keep it to myself.
2007-04-11 00:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jeffrey P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
* Take her out to lunch or something nice , tell her that her bf cheated on her and tell her you are telling her as a friend and you are there for her if she needs you , she will be more upset if she finds out you know and didnt tell her Good Luck *
2007-04-11 00:34:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u urself has not seen em doin nything, how can u convince some1 else if u urself r not convinced?
But if u think its correct n u really care for her, jus give her some hints, she herself might understand. She shd kno wats goin on at her back.
2007-04-11 00:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by vids007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell her but also tell her that you are not a 100% sure about the news
2007-04-11 00:35:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell her, she has a right to know...
2007-04-11 00:33:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋