I have a guy who claims every now and then that he loves me but do not care about me. Since we got into the relationship he has never spent a whole day with me before but i think he is seeing someone else but anytime i ask him he says its not true. i love him soo much but because of this i want to quit. pls help me
2007-04-11 00:07:47 · 10 answers · asked by Sexy gal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's kinda like quitting smoking, one day at a time.
2007-04-11 00:12:24 · answer #1 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him that you don't think he cares about you enough? About how he has never spent a whole day with you? There are probably a whole list of things he is not doing with you that you expect from someone who says they are in love with you. Tell him about all those things - you probably have a list as long as your arm. Tell him that is what you need to have to feel loved - it's not enough that he just tells you he loves you now and then. Tell him that if he isn't going to start doing those things, it is over. And then act on that. If he balks, just tell him you're tired of missing those things in your life - bye, bye.
You suspect he's seeing someone else but that's hard to prove and he denies it. If you knew that he was seeing someone else, it would be easier to break up with him but it sounds like he is stingy with his attentions to you anyway. I'd break up with him just for that reason. But - even though you sound tough giving him an ultimatum - it's not unreasonable to expect someone to spend the day with you and do other things that people in love do. If you're not getting those things, he needs to be told so that he understands clearly. If he understands what you want and still refuses to give it to you, then send the guy on his way. Whether you love him or not, the two of you are not compatible enough to last.
2007-04-11 00:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He says that he loves you, but doesn't care about you? How can you possibly have both at the same time?
You said that you want to quit. Then quit. It sounds like the relationship isn't what you want it to be, and you want out. Life is too short to wait around hoping that someone might suddenly change and treat us different. How he treats you now is how he will always treat you. He isn't going to change. If you don't feel loved, and you feel unhappy, then end it decisively and don't look back.
2007-04-11 00:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by Orrianne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax the problem is ure desperate for him and ur showing it so u get a very burnt down version of attention i dont even know how to comment but i think u need to take a break from relationships until u mature a bit more i mean he aint oxygen
2007-04-11 00:13:26 · answer #4 · answered by ladyluck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you as a cling on. That means you are good for his ego and not much else. I'd dump him and find a guy that would appreciate you for who you truly are.
2007-04-11 00:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank god u decided to quit.
Well tell him directly tat its not working for u. N if u cant spk it directly, give him certain hints, like dont call him anymore, be rude etc.
2007-04-11 00:13:30 · answer #6 · answered by vids007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do u want to be after a person who is not interested in u after finishing his work!!!
2007-04-11 00:14:09 · answer #7 · answered by dithu d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I think you're a booty call. Sounds like he's committed or married. :(
2007-04-11 00:13:15 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes got someone else. just tell him its over!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-11 00:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
enjoy....wile u can.
2007-04-11 00:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by Jack M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋