Fed up of trying?

Question

I’m in my late 20s, I’m slim and not over weight and I’m attractive. I don’t seem to get much luck with men. When I go out at night I have no trouble chatting to new people and men that I fancy. I am polite and well mannered and make all effort to try and get a boyfriend but I don’t get any results. I swapped my number with a guy I met at the weekend, I texted him and I got no reply. I have deleted his number, but I feel fed up of trying to find someone now.

Answer 1

dont try too hard it will happen lovely x

Answer 2

Hi Sarah - I'm sure you are doing all the right things to meet new people and dating is never an easy matter anyway. However, maybe you are making too much of an effort. Perhaps you are trying too hard to find a partner as it can sometimes come across as seeming a bit desperate if you really want something so badly. Perhaps it would be worth trying a new approach. Are there any clubs, organisations or activities that you could get involved in which would give you a broader perspective, yet still give you the opportunity of meeting new people? It may be a slow process but I am sure you will meet someone special some day and I know that sounds cliched, but I wish you the very best. Don't give up - there is a person out there for you!!!

Answer 3

You are still young...just try to have fun for now by being single and make the most out of your day each day. Maybe you should stop from "looking" for someone, let them just come to you and see what happen. I'm a strong believer of the saying -everything happen for a reason. Maybe there is a good reason why these guys are not becoming your ideal BF. Also, maybe you should look into those places where good guys are hangin out...not at a club or bar. Good luck and I'm sure you'll find him. Always think positive..and enjoy life for now.

Answer 4

Maybe men are intimidated by you. Maybe you are a little too eager. When you meet someone you are attracted to don't take their number, let them take yours. That way the ball is in their court. If they call, they call, if not don't worry about it. You should also try dating sites. I was kind of in the same boat as you. The profession that I work in is 90% women. I went to school with mosty women. I was tired of the bar and club scene. I didn't feel like there were many opportunities to meet men. I joined a dating site and met some really great guys. My current boyfriend is from a dating site that I was on. A little advice...... if you decide to join a dating site..... join one that you have to pay for. I've had a bad experience with free sites. The men seem more genuine when they are on a dating site that they have to pay for. Good luck and don't worry. YOu will find your prince charming when you least expect it.

Answer 5

You need to be patient. Maybe you are just looking in the wrong places. Do you have any friends that know some nice eligible guys? Are their any singles clubs (not night clubs) in your area? Most of the guys that hang out at night are looking for a piece of a**. You probably don't look easy. They love the easy ones. Be glad you have not had to deal with much of that kind.

Just about the time you have given up on looking, the right guy will come along. That's the way it usually happens. Good Luck!!

Answer 6

maybe you're just trying that bit too hard hun?? It will prob hit you like a thunderbolt when you're least expecting it!
Do you appear too keen when you meet these people? You have to keep a bit of elusiveness and mystery to you when talking to new men - if you're overkeen - they will interpret this as desperate and possibly be frightened.
If you're not this way around the men - then if they dont text you or whatever - its their loss! Hang in there - you'll find mr right soon enough!
xx

Answer 7

Im not sure if this is the same, but my friend is just like you in many ways. I personally think she tries too hard. Then when it comes to the texting part she text's too early. Boys dont like to feel like they are going to go out with a clingy girl.
I say, when you go out, be confident but think about going out to enjoy yourself, not to get a number from a guy.
Also when you do get the number sort of half arrange something with the guy, like say to him, I will text on wed, then text him thursday, leave it a good few days before texting again.
It sounds silly but it really is a game of will power. Dont text too soon.

Answer 8

Stop trying, like you said you are an attractive smart and polite girl who deserves to have guys chasing after her.
But you are tryin too hard and guys don't like that, just go out with your friends and have fun without thinking about what guys number you can get.
Soon enough you will have them all falling over each other to get your number and trust me they will all be calling.
Good luck babe xxx

Answer 9

honey, u dont need a man! start enjoying the single world and dont try so hard.. believe me when u stop trying a lovely guy will come along with everything you want... you sound like a lovely girl, dont hang urself up just cos u cant find a boyfriend.... believe me, enjoy being single! life is too short!
good luck!

Answer 10

Bit of a cliche, but when you go looking you don't find it.

Maybe you should just take up some social activities (dance lessons, evening classes, sport etc) and you'll probably meet like minded people there.

Good luck!

Answer 11

Try internet dating. There are loads of people doing it now, and it seems to have lost the stigma it once had. I know 3 people who are currently in relationships after having met via an online service. And remember, you don't have to tell people how you met!
A couple of links below for sites that my friends used.