im not very close to them, andi haven't even seen them for years?
2007-04-10 23:52:21 · 24 answers · asked by Rosanna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
what about the wedding reception
2007-04-10 23:56:07 · update #1
If you did, what have you got to lose?
If you didn't, what have you got to lose?
Weigh both, and you'll get your answer ;)
2007-04-10 23:56:33 · answer #1 · answered by Klaw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I probably would invite them. Weddings can be very political, and family may hold grudges if you don't invite everyone.
I'll give you an example, a good friend of mine happened to marry a VERY distant cousin. I wanted to invite her to the shower, wedding, reception, everything. When I sent my mother and aunt the guest list, they both immediately said that I couldn't invite her without inviting the rest of that side of the family as well, otherwise there would be hurt feelings. I did, and everything was fine.
One question you might want to ask is what is your budget? If you're having a small wedding then don't invite those cousins, but if you're inviting a small army it would be the most polite thing to do.
2007-04-11 01:26:22 · answer #2 · answered by adribug354 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I wouldn't invite them to the actual wedding and wedding reception... Just invite them along to the evening. That way you can keep the peace in the family but not have to pay a fortune to cater for them at the reception!
Congratulations on getting married, I hope it happens to me one day, but I doubt it!
Best wishes x
2007-04-11 00:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by Me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could invite them to the afters. I don't agree with family members being invited to the whole wedding if you don't know them very well and haven't been in touch with them in a long time. I'm sure you have friends and other people who you are closer to who you would rather invite. Anyhow a wedding is expensive enough without inviting people you don't know.
2007-04-11 00:07:31 · answer #4 · answered by polly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe invite them to the reception and have the actual wedding for your closer family and friends?
2007-04-11 00:08:31 · answer #5 · answered by Laura M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the room and money- it would be nice but if your on a tight budget and don't have the room... you might have to skip them.
Plan out your list of people you want and then have a B list... the B list is people like your cousins that you may be unsure about inviting but it a lot of A can't make it you can invite the Bs. I am doing it this way and it working great...
2007-04-11 01:41:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are pushed for space then just invite them for the evening.
My cousin never invited any of the older cousins to her wedding (there are a lot of us) but invited my youngest two cousins. I didnt feel left out - I had only met her fiance once and its their day!
Dont feel pressurised into inviting people to your wedding that arent really that bothered about being there
2007-04-11 00:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, invite them. Why not?
If you havn't seen them for years and you are sending out expensive invitations, get some cheap ones.
Who knows, they may not attend but you done the right thing, to invite all family. Also they may just send you some money because they might feel guilty.
Good luck in your new life of marriage...it isn't easy but as long as you love each other, it will work.
2007-04-10 23:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh god, I'm having flash backs to my wedding!!
it all depends on so many things!!
would it cause a family riot if they didn't come to the ceremony but came to the reception instead?
that's what we did as we had so many that we couldn't have them all as there wasn't enough room and also it would have bumped the cost up a lot.
do what will make YOU happy, but try to tow the family line a little as it will make your life easier.
i don't see anything wrong with them coming to the evening do along with other distant relatives and work mates.
good luck
xx
2007-04-11 00:04:36 · answer #9 · answered by lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you think it will cause a family feud, or you will regret not doing so.
If your budget will not allow it, and you are not close, there are two good reasons to say no.
It is really up to you.
You could always have a social (or have a get-together at your house) after your wedding day, and invite extended family to help you celebrate.
2007-04-11 00:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by reginachick22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going away to get married, have invited my auntie as I see her a lot but my cousins i haven't cos don't c them, and haven't in years. Do what you feel t's your wedding and it's up to you and your partner who to invite, families will get over these things. good luck
2007-04-11 01:43:16 · answer #11 · answered by HELEND 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋