i know, the only response for that is to love him back.well i do love him lots too,but i still feel he loves me more.its TOO sweet.why do i feel like i'm getting something i don't deserve?should he be with a better girl so his love goes worthwhile?
2007-04-10 22:42:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel the same way and i don't know what to do.
2007-04-10 22:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by CuTe BaBy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I am the same way when it comes to my family, and children. I am an older woman, and every time they do something special for me I feel I don't deserve it. I also feel I owe them.
I realize that it is because as a child through my teens I was always put down, and was considered the black sheep of the family. I believe this feeling of debt, or guilt is from low self esteem. I do not feel worthy of their love because of it, and always feel like they have to prove their love for me. It is a vicious cycle.
You do not feel worthy of his love, because you do not feel you are worthy of yourself. It is a horrible feeling. I wish you all the luck, and if you can find some kind of therapy to help you I think that would be a good idea.
Sincerely
2007-04-10 22:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I really wanted to see the rest of this intriguing question.
He idolises you which is safe for him in this situation cause you truly care about him. It could be you've given him a healing which may well have him feeling in your debt. He understands something very real about you and is very greatful.
You guys definitely do NOT need to split up, you'll both end up scarring yourselves. You don't even need to talk to him about this situation just enjoy it. Just keep telling him over and over again thats he's great and wonderful and that will sink in and then your relationship will get on an even keel.
He could actually be terrified of losing you because he'll never find anyone as nice as you again. Just be there for him.
Actually, you may think this is strange but it sounds like you guys have'nt had an argument yet. He also needs to understand that you can both agree to disagree.
He holds you up on a pedestal cause you are soooooooo
important to him. I can see why, you yourself can't accept real love for your self and you sound very selfless, but why should some one else have this great guy, they don't know half of what you know of him anyway.
He sees no wrong in you and sweety thats the truth.
you deserve him baby, go and have a great life together, I think you guys are awesum (tear)
2007-04-10 23:10:16 · answer #3 · answered by crr_rndy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well congrats that you have found a wonderful boyfriend that treat you like a gem. Its okay that you feel that he love you more than you love him.
These feelings is alright, little that you know that he might also feel that you love him more than he does.
Treasure this relationship and enjoy your time with him. Give him some surprise out of the blue.
This will add more wonderful memories to your relationship.
Take care , my friend.
2007-04-11 01:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by Showstopper 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
are you sure it's love?? couldn't he be emotionally needy??
maybe he overdoes it because he wants you to think you could never leave him.
so he's actually being possessive, just dressing it up very nicely.
or he's cheating?
you could have a serious talk with him.
tell him "Ok, we've been together a few months. It's time to talk about where our relationship is heading".
I don't know how it will play out. You don't need to confront him with your feelings, you could talk around it.
Or perhaps just go in hard .. tell him you're not looking for a puppy love, you want a man who can be a little independent and mysterious. Ask him if he has what it takes to provide for a family.
2007-04-10 23:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like you are not ready to give him as much love as he is ready to give you. Don't feel obligated to love just because you are being loved. Life does not work that way. On the other hand, don't lead him on. Tell him that you really care about him, but you are not ready to call it love yet. Let him know that if he feels he should move on, you will respect his feelings.
2007-04-10 23:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be yourself. That's who he fell in love with. If you have a b/f who treats you like a queen, well accept it with good grace. You must be doing something right, something that he relates to very much. Don't try to compete, you'll probably stuff it up. Remember the old adage...don't look a gift horse in the mouth. Enjoy!
2007-04-10 22:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he didn't feel your love was worth it than he wouldn't give you so much of himself. He wants you to know what you mean to him and this is why he treats you the way he does. You deserve it, don't believe me? Well then why don't you ask him? Love isn't about who has more or less to give, its that it is given freely and often not by choice enjoy what you have and never take it for granted.
-NmD!
2007-04-10 22:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
People love who they love. That's life. If you don't truly love him well let him go and find someone else. If you do love him try not to feel so undeserving of his attention. Some people just love more and that's life. Be grateful that you have someone that feels so strongly about you. If you let him go now you will regret it.
2007-04-10 22:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by Jade AvA 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're not cheating... then there's no reason to feel that way. Remember, loving someone... and I mean REALLY loving someone means giving something in which you don't expect anything in return. He loves you... period. If you reciprocate the affection, he'll feel it. If you're not sure he does, then ask him if he realizes how much you love him. It isn't wrong to ask. Assurance is the best way to secure yourself. Don't worry about it too much. :)
2007-04-10 22:51:07 · answer #10 · answered by childsplay 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No he shouldnt. Maybe you just love each other the same. And he takes the initiative to express it willingly. Perhaps cause you are taken back, feeling in debt cause you feel he loves you more. And love is what you need between couples so dont mind who loves each other more. There's no fair or no fair. Just love him and strengthen your relationship. No fear, no stepbacks. Love him your whole.
2007-04-10 22:49:07 · answer #11 · answered by GirlBehindTheShadows 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋