ok he cheated on me, he hit me roughly 3 times in our 3 year realtionship..is that bad....he kicked me few times in one day cos he thought i went to see my ex [ didnt] and he slapped me twice for silly reasons .....hes also cheated and his behavious wasnt that great either.
but we had some really good times and i know alot of men cheat and u wont found someone who doesnt,,is this true
i feel like goin bak to him cos i mis him even though i know i can do better he does want meback but i dnt know i think all ment cheat so why dont i just stick to him....what do i do
help pls
2007-04-10 22:35:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hitting you once is too much,some of us treat our partners like the ladies they are,
2007-04-10 22:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't do that! Don't go back to him.
He has shown you more than once that he believes you are someone he can hit/kick. If you go back without him going some heavy-duty help, you are putting yourself in line for the same again, and perhaps worse. You also mentioned that he cheated which also shows a lack of respect, both for your relationship and for you. You also say that his behavior hasn't been that good, on top of these other things. He has 3 red flags against him (a red flag is a major relationship problem).
I think at this time you need time without him or any man. You do need time to get over this BAD relationship, and you need to find out what you really want, and how to present yourself so you can get it. You don't have to be in a relationship to be happy, try spending time with friends, family etc. instead. make the most of who you are and you must believe that YOU DO DESERVE BETTER THAN THAT!
2007-04-11 05:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't and musn't go back with this bully. No woman deserves to be beaten up through his jealous rages. You can have plenty of good times with other decent men out there. Not to mention the fact that this loser has cheated on you too. You can do so much better than this waste of space. If you ask me you've had a lucky escape. Women end up dead because of bullies like these. Dont go back to him. he'll never in a million years change.
2007-04-11 05:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by nc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont ever go back to him. Perhaps it started out all well because it's the start. Some people just play fooly and dump you aside for the sake of it. They give silly reasons to get your attention. But if hiting you, doesnt prove that. It just means they're tired of you... Needs utterly a break. Stress from work. Some people just break out in cold sweat. They suffer from mental disorder from stress and problems in relationship. He's just cheating you off yourself. You miss him? Call him, have a talk. When he calms down, meet up in public. Make sure they're lots of people so he doesnt hit you. Then have a long sweet talk and work out the problems. Find out his problem and maybe you'll get back together. If not, take the initiative to dump a useless guy.
2007-04-11 05:41:23 · answer #4 · answered by GirlBehindTheShadows 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never go back to a guy that has HIT or ABUSED you in anyway, because even though he says it'll never happen again - 9 out of 10 times it does.
You DESERVE respect, and this guy ain't giving it to you.
.......... not to mention the cheating. Do you really want to catch some STD off him because he has or was fooling around.
You deserve much better - plenty more men out there girl !
Good Luck.
2007-04-11 05:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Mysterious ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a man I am a good observer of human nature I can tell you that a man who has done things to you like that many times is just going to keep doing it because you let him honestly if you go back he will know he has the power over you and hes going to beat the **** out of you problaby kill you just go out to a bar or a club or even church youll find someone nice. when it comes to cheating no not all men cheat I dont.
2007-04-11 05:45:00 · answer #6 · answered by FunDude#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, no not all guys cheat. Most.. but not all..
He has absolutely no reason to hit you watsoever. You need to get out of this relationship fast. Trust me, I know you think it's hard but it won't get better, he knows what you let him do and he'll just keep doing it.
Seriously I would rather be single then be in that kind of relationship. You need to move forward, and never look back.
All the best.
2007-04-11 05:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by tanitious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stand in front of the mirror, slap yourself a few times, and say: This is what I would be going back to. Do I enjoy it? No. Good. Then I'll be glad that's behind me and instead of asking for more of the same, I'll go out and find someone else. Preferably someone normal this time.
2007-04-11 05:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont get back with him whatever you do! once a cheater always a cheater, and for the hitting, kicking and slapping thats wrong and no one should have to put up with that. not all men are cheaters theres plenty more good fish in the sea
2007-04-11 05:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by otsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a f#cking ********, dont even think to pick up the phone and call him, those kind of men are called woman beaters and in every country in the world people say no to that crap. move on, get some one else, those kind of people are losers,and losers always end up in the rubbish where they belong!
2007-04-11 05:47:31 · answer #10 · answered by sared 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counselling and work on your low self esteem. You need to believe that you deserve a loving, non-abusive man, or you will lead a hellish life of escalating violence.
http://www.mentalhelp.net
http://www.snbw.org/
Take action!!
2007-04-11 05:42:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋