How come I can't say "I love you" to him?

Question

I seem to be a horrible partner, or atleasts thats how I feel. I never say the word love, for the most part I don't really believe in it, so I am a fool some might say, but thats just who I am.

Why is it so hard for me to say "I love you" when he says it all the time? I believe its all about lust and nothing more then sexual attraction and a bond of good friendship.... Love does not really exist in my mind.

Answer 1

"I LOVE YOU" is more or less a way of reassuring someone that your there. If you can't say it to him it doesn't mean you don't care it just means that your not as insecure as him. you don't need reassurance of an emotion , your a free spirit, have fun and don't worry about what you can't say.

Answer 2

I used to think love didn't exist but I just hadn't found love yet. Stop settling for these guys that you are talking about. Be alone for a while and in time you'll see. When you really love someone you'll feel it. I know this is soooo something that an old person would say but read this verse. I had the same problem with love and this helped me understand it better.

"Love is patient and Kind. Love is not Jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance... "

Yes it's from the bible and its number 13 in the Corinthians. If you read it all you will see a little better what love is. And don't forget, it is better to not say I love you and not mean it than to lie and say you do. I hope I helped you more than I confused you.

Answer 3

When I saw the title of your question I thought saying 'because maybe you don't' would be a unique answer. Looking at the details though,it seems all the more likely you don't love him.

But you know what things your relationship is based on - and that's a good thing.

He might be saying he loves you so much because it doesn't mean anything,and he doesn't think about it. He might have the same feelings on the relationship as you,just without acknowledging it's not real love.

You should discuss it with him. If you really,truly don't love him (you'll know if you do) then you won't miss the friendship and sex too much if he reacts badly and breaks it off. But if you're lucky,he'll appreciate your honesty even if he's dissapointed you don't feel the same way about him. And again,if he has the same feelings as you about it then there's no problem.

Answer 4

Your inability to say "i love you" doesnt mean that you dont hold your partner in an equally high regard. What your probably afraid of is that if you actually say those words it will devalue the power of it! Saying i love you 1000 times a year compared to just once a year, which one is more powerful?

Your probably the kind of person that would save those special words for an exeptionally rare occassion to gain the biggest impact... Or then again you could just be one of those people that are emotionally retarded ^_^ incabable of showing any emotion, but you seem quite worried about being horrible so the latter is probably unlikely.

Answer 5

Don't feel guilty for not saying something that you have not experienced yet. When you actually fall in love, you will want to tell the person--the whole world!!

You are just not ready. Why don't you just tell him that you think that he is moving too fast. Tell him that it is hard to trust that love is true when people keep using the word so freely. Tell him that you would like to save that word for when you know for sure that it is real and going to last. Tell him that when the time comes that you say it, he will have no doubts about your love.

Answer 6

A question for you...when you were growing up, were you shown love and affection by your Family? this could probably be the root of the problem! Or you could be getting into relationships for all the wrong reasons...Speak more openly about your feelings... it might just help! I am sure that you dont want to give your partner the wrong vibes!

Answer 7

You need to learn about love by reading either classic love poetry or classic love novels. Love DOES exist.........it's just that you need to learn what it is and how it feels. It is rare and hard to find so most of the time you'll have to settle for lust and friendship. But if you can find love, it's worth it! And if you find it, you will be able to tell the person "I love you".

Answer 8

True love the kind you think doesn't exist between men and women. I think the same. I also don't use those words. So your not the only one. I'm with a guy and has soon as he does me wrong I dislike him. Whatever it was I felt I become a cold hearted B... all capitals.

Answer 9

Saying "I love You" is one of the corny thing lovers do. But when your in-love, you won't mind saying it over and over again.

Others just say it with out reason and meaning. Its just an ordinary word for them.

Its hard for you to say "I Love You" maybe because your not used in saying it. Time will come that your mouth will just utter it to the right person. And it means you really love that person.

Answer 10

All I can say is that you love him but not in love with him. I say this because if you were in love with him saying "I love you" would not be a problem. Maybe youre just not ready for real love and need a little more time. LOL.

Answer 11

yeah.. the person that said, you wont know how much you love him until his gone, that is true.. its like that saying" you wont know ur mistake, until its done"..maybe you dont love this guy or maybe you do. just try and imagine being apart from this guy and seeing whats like without him.. i think you should try to change yourself as soon as possible, because not knowing how u really feel about this guy, not know if you really love him or not, can really mess up your relationship.. just don't forget, not many people gets a second chance.. good luck..