My husband hates my dog...?

Question

Everyone hates her but me and my brother. I kinda try to compensate for love and attention with my 10 mo old JRT. So my husband is resenting her because of it, he used to love her, and I can tell it hurts her that he hasn't paid any attention to her in 6+ months. She tries to get his attention by getting in his face and doing stuff she knows she isn't supposed to, but he just gets more mad at her because of that stuff. Is there any suggestions out there that I can try?

I don't show her a ton of attention, but I overcompensate for no one liking her. I buy her stuff, and don't get him anything...that sort of thing. Ticks me off something fierce.

He wouldn't read a book if his life depended on it. Unless of course it was one of those super religious books like say, The Left Behind series. (I only know that cus those were the only books I have ever seen him read in the 6 years that we have been together.)

to reiterate the thing about me not buying him anything...he just took his student loan money and bought himself a Wii and several games, he never pays bills, I have to do that, and he has made me loose all of his and my belongings, twice, and our house(we owned..he refused to pay lot rent and on a few occasions, would refuse to find work.)

Answer 1

Get involved with your local dog club, and participate in dog sport. JRTs are great agility dogs, and you and yours would love the challenge. Hopefully, you could get hubby to join you in this sport and help to train the pup together. That way he could take pride in her..
IF he still doesn't respond to her, then you will still have had fun, and end up with a great dog..
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Ask at your pet supply shop to find your nearest club.

Answer 2

My parents felt a dog was more important than me, so I have an opinion that might vary vastly from other responders in that it's far less sensitive and more cut-n-dry. Additionally, my palce of work is a home office with a really large underfoot ill-behaved dog. Giving said dog an inch will make it try to take a mile from EVERYONE.

Dogs can be passive-agressive creatures, they'll intentionally get in people's way and try to "make master move" and be a nusance.

If "everyone" hates your dog, maybe the problem IS not your husband, but your dog, or the way in which your dog is being kept/cared for.

According to some breed information, JRTs are notorious for 'taking over' if not properly trained and disciplined. They are also very attention-needy dogs, and need a lot of entertainment and attention to not be destructive. They will 'pester' people to death. To be frank, JRTs sound very annoying and obnoxious and I don't think most average people would be JRT dogs.

Perhaps the method your husband is choosing with the dog is completely ignoring it as a way to show it that it won't get its way all the time. Perhaps the needy passive-agressive pushy dog just isn't your husband's type? Or the type for folks other than you or your brother?

You may want to get your dog some training and make sure it's getting enough excersizing it. You also may want to lay off the compensatory attention, you're coddling it and may be giving it the impression that the misbehavior is acceptable.

I'd consider putting the dog outside and out of the way until the dog can be properly trained to know that Man > Dog, not Dog > Man. Also consider getting your dog a playmate or getting a dog that's less demanding of you and rehoming your current dog with someone who is a JRT person. I know rehoming sounds heartless, but if the dog isn't right for you and your lifestyle or visa versa the dog's not going to have a happy fulfilled life and it's going to make you miserable in the process.

As for your husband's other behavior? Maybe it's time for dumpsville. My significant other is the same, and once I get a breadwinner job I'm getting out and letting my partner get buried in their own irresponsibility.

Answer 3

Sounds like the issue goes a lot deeper than your husband not liking your dog. Sounds like you two need to get some counseling to try and fix your relationship and develop a real marriage. If that fails, move out, get divorced, and start a new life with your dog. I don't know what a JRT is, but there is no reason for anyone to abuse a dog or you, the wife.

Your husband needs to quit mooching off of you. He needs to grow up, learn to accept responsibility, get and maintain a job despite his schooling...people do it all the time. He also needs to learn some financial responsibility. His school loans are for school purposes, not games that a teenager would want!

As for the other people that hate your dog, they should be more than welcome to stay away from your home. Go visit them for a change if they matter to you, or better yet, don't. To love me is to love my dog. It's a package deal and they need to accept it or move on.

Answer 4

Try to find out why he doesn't like your dog. Maybe if you know why he doesn't like your dog, you can try to help your husband and your dog by working on the issue. My husband wasn't the biggest animal lover around because some dogs smell bad if not bathed enough or have bad behavior issues from not being trained well like jumping, barking or pottying wherever they chose too . I bath my dog once a week or every other week to keep her clean, smelling nice and to also keep the pet dander down. My husband has grown very attached to our dog. Try getting him involved in taking you & your dog for walks or to the park. Also try getting him involved in playing with your dog with a ball or favorite toy. Also teaching your dog tricks. I would suggest taking your dog to PetSmart or some other place to train her. If he goes with you and the dog it would probably help him bond with your dog and may not be that expensive, plus it could save alot of headaches down the road. Some people are just not animal lovers. Alot of people think puppies are cute but get bored with the fact that there dog has grown and isn't a tiny little puppy anymore. Try encouraging your husband to get involved with your puppy a little more, but don't over push him where he may resent the puppy even more. Good Luck! I truelly hope things get better soon!

Answer 5

Keep the dog in the house and put your husband in the kennel.
But no seriously, if your husband doesn`t turn the corner with your dog it may come down to a mutual resentment.
One day he will yell at her and she may show her teeth.. So who`s at fault? Don`t shoot the dog!!!!
Your hubby needs to understand that he is more than likely the alpha of the family pack that the dog is also a part of.
Buy him the book "Leader of the Pack"
Floren DeWaard
Wiley Creek Kennels

Answer 6

Your husband needs to grow up, his not a baby that needs attention all the time. Puppies need attention, he needs to give it to her and be so childish. His probably feeling left out and your probably showing the puppy more love than you do your man, so his only way is to get back at pup.

Talk to him and find out whats his problem, then you can go from there and solve what ever is bothering him. I think his just jealous. Good luck!

Answer 7

sit down with your husband and tell him how much you love the dog and how the dog is reacting to getting no attention from him if he hasn't already noticed, tell him to think of how you feel as pets are supposed to be members of the family. if he doesn't pay any attention to what your saying then ask him what he doesn't like about the dog and also say dogs have feelings to. a dogs a dog!

Answer 8

you can abuse a dog emotionaly as well as physically just like a person. they have feelings too and need love and attention or they can become resentful and mean.your husband should want you to be happy and hurting your dog in any form is not the way to achieve that. i dont know what you can do to get him to change the way he is. but i would worry about anyone who can do that to a dog he once claimed to love

Answer 9

dump the husband...Why do you want to live like that???Seems like your puppy is sweet and they ARE like kids. They need you and will stay with you and be faithful until the day they die(or you). Can you say the same about your husband??And what if you gave the dog away and then suddenly your husband left you???Wouldn't you feel awefull about the dog and be lonely??dogs are faithfull friends if you raise them right.....

Answer 10

Sounds like you need to get rid of your husband and lead a happy life with your best friend. The more I learn about people, the more I love my dog.