please just serious answers,cause this is a serious question.
i am a 23 boy,and it's more than 4 years that i've been faithful with my girlfriend ,so has she been.
these days i really feel like having sex with other girls or women(not any specific one),but i have been faithful.some times i feel i love her,but sometimes i feel i deserve a better marriage than this,in fact some times i think i am more attractive and successful than her.
she's studying for ms,and i'm doing so for phd,these days,we have less time for each other.i proposed her,but she said she will postpone it to after her phd,i really do not know what to do,i don't want to sadden her,should i remain fuithful,to be unfaithful,to break up,or to forget about this lust for others.
can i find better situations or if i break up i'll regret cause we've done everything for and with each other in these 4 years.
2007-04-10 20:39:34 · 13 answers · asked by Stephan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From your post I see that u base ur love only on your being faithful to her. I think when u r not even sure if u love her, So why wait for her? U can always tell her what u feel and after discussion may be decide to end this and be gud friends.
2007-04-10 20:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's obviously a reason you've been with her for so long, she is apparently very smart, a rare commodity in today's world. This could be just a rough patch for you, I'd tell her in a serious way that you feel like you want more. Maybe you don't necessarily want other women, but the thought of having a nurse, a maid, a stewardess, intrigues you. Have fun with it, she seems like an amazing catch, determined and faithful? That's great to find. She'll be successful soon too, and the stress of studying and such will leave and she can attend to her beauty more. Keep going with the relationship!!! She's a keeper!!
2007-04-11 03:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by Elle1988 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is only something u can answer for urself. it sounds like u 2 have drifted apart with ur busy schedules and not being able to spend much time with each other. it's something that both of u have to sit down and seriously talk to each other about how each of u feel about what's going in ur relationship together. after talking u might find that u 2 still love each and u'll find a way to work things out or that u 2 rn't working out anymore and it might be better that u guys r no longer together so that u can both move on.
good luck.
2007-04-11 03:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give it some time before breaking up, probably until after you both finish up with school and get your careers going. Four years is a long time to be together, then to breakup just for feeling an attraction to other people. You are both just at a point in your life where you are having to focus on school and not necessarily each other. Give it some time.
2007-04-11 03:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a strange time in a person's life where 'lovers' become 'just good friends'. Do You really want to break up, or are You just becoming bored with each other? As You two mature You will both see Your future roles in a different light. Is Your/Her career more important than Your happiness and state of mind? You twoo must talk this thing out between yourselves. No one else can make up Your mind for You.
2007-04-11 03:46:13 · answer #5 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really in such emotional turmoil over the subject than the answer is yes. Where there is doubt, there should be no doubt. I'm not saying just dump her off hand, but if you have to ask, it appears your mind is made up.
Fantasizing about other women, by the by, is completely and totally normal. Its not some sort of infidelity by proxy, its just your mind going "Oh wait! I want that one! And that one!". Come on, men are selfish, I know that I am.
Examine what you really want out of this relationship, and act on it.
2007-04-11 03:44:22 · answer #6 · answered by Suriyawong 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just the fact that you are asking strangers these questions should be enough to say that you obvious don't care as much about this girl as you might have thought. If you get the urge to be unfaithful, don't do it until you have broken up with her. At least you can give her that respect.
2007-04-11 03:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the real question is are you happy...if ur happy with this girl and it sounds like you guys are setting up a really good life for each other, then don't worry about it...i agree, don't do something u'll regret...its natural to find others attractive and have lust, just don't act on it...do u still find her attractive, does she still fulfill your needs, if she does, then just deal with the lust...it'll pass...just ask yourself if ur happy with her and if u can see u spending the rest of ur life with her...i would guess you r, since you asked her to marry you...just don't do n e thing, the lust will pass...good luck....
2007-04-11 03:45:30 · answer #8 · answered by ro19_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can not make your hart feel what it don't want to... and i am sure youheard this a million times... if you are not feeling the love there then maybe she is not right for you.. why spend thousands of dollars to get a wedding then get a divorce, and find out it was never meant to be...honestly...
2007-04-11 03:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to break up and sow your wild oates. It's better and cheaper to break up than to divorce. Do what you need to do and if this is real love eventually you will get back together if not it's better to get out.
2007-04-11 03:45:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋