ok i asked out this girl and she said yes and stuff but im not sure how to handle the situation because she told me shes never had a bf and well thats the thing i dont really know how to start a good relationship with someone like that i dont know how strong id be able to come on with out scareing her and so on so any advice would be great thanks
2007-04-10 19:46:16 · 8 answers · asked by nemises65 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The fact that you're worried about scaring her off and asking for advice shows that you're off to a good start as it is. First off, don't "come on" to her at all. Throw your interest out there and see if she throws some back. Don't try to be "in control" of your relationship. If your are her first boyfriend, than she needs to be the one to set up boundaries and such. That is how you don't scare her off with your mighty masculinity. She knows that she's got a say in your relationship and such. Good for business. I guess what I'm trying to say is just play it by ear. Good luck.
2007-04-10 19:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by Suriyawong 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to take it at a reasonably slow rate. I once asked a girl to just hold her hand and it ruined our relationship. She said it just freaked her out and that she wasn't ready for a relationship. Allow her to choose the pace, but you must choose what to do to keep the pace. I'd suggest just romantically talking or e-mailing for about a week, then hint at going out somewhere together. if she likes the idea ask her out. On the date, a simple flower could be very good. Don't go to a Burger king, but maybe take a walk to a local ice cream, coffee, or pastry shop, order something small, and walk and talk together, then at the end, give her the flower and say you had a great time and would like to go out again. I wouldn't suggest a kiss until the 2nd or 3rd date. Build in Romanticism from there, just build from there. I'd be interested to know what happens if you take my advice, keep me posted.
2007-04-10 19:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK -- you just asked this girl out. You DID NOT ask her to marry you!!
You need to become good (really good) friends first! Take your time. Find out what you have in common. Find out how you are different! This is NOT a race!!
Before you get all hot and bothered, you need to decide if she is someone you want to spend more than 3 months with!!
My point is that you need to decide what the profile is of your "perfect" girlfriend! Look to the future -- will she grow?
Is she the "one" that you want to be the mother of your children? No? Then take your time!
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2007-04-10 19:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it gradually and when the time feels right progress onto kissing and then whatever from there, don't push anything on her and just be patient. Focus on getting to know each other first and then you will start feeling more comfortable and know when it's time to do different things when you's really know each other.
2007-04-10 19:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wont be scared. Just carry on like normal, you shouldnt have to change your ways because she's never dated. Its bout time she learns the game.
2007-04-10 19:49:47 · answer #5 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be nice to her,ask her what kinds of things she likes to do.We love it when you hand our hand walking down the street.That lets us no you like us and you don't care who knows it.
2007-04-10 19:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself and be honest... thats all it takes to start a good relationship
2007-04-10 19:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go slow & be her friend first, then slowly move to a little more. Be yourself & don't push.
2007-04-10 19:52:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋