to all my lovely friends and companions on R&S ?

Question

some of you know me well for a long time , some of you wish I would just go away and deleted my 6880point account yesterday(I've moved on), some of you I made laugh , I am The Slave of 12Gods.
but could use some wisdom form you all , because yesterday I was brought to my knees in such a brutal way , that I dont think that recovery will be in sight - ever!
my only child was diagnosed with a bad tumor today and I have no tears left , no strenght left , no peace left and my life has come to a complete stand still !
I cant eat or sleep , I cant reason or think straight!
my question today is - has anyone been in a similar position , and what did you do o stay sane???
some insights would be apreciated as I am all out of them !

I thank you all for your support! at least I am able to chat here because sleep is not on the agenda today! except for our little racist friend somewhere in the middle , you are all so kind and gentle !
I thank you soo much!

Answer 1

My dear so12g,
First, let me say how sorry I am that this has happened to you and your child. You have my deepest sympathy.

I have not been in a position to have a child diagnosed with cancer, but I have been in a position of devastation such as you describe.
My friends and family were a great source of strength for me, and I had to be strong for the sake of my loved ones.
It was kind of a "fake it til you make it" thing for awhile. In the end, I came out being stronger, and so did those who were affected.
Be gentle with yourself right now, and be your own best friend. That is my advice to you. Know that you can count on your friends here. We love you.
(((Gentle Hugs))))

Answer 2

I'm sorry, Slave. Please remember, a malignant tumor does not necessarily mean what it is you're so afraid of. There has been more advancement in medicine than I can tell you.

Talk about it. Always. Don't shut yourself down. Don't let your child know how frightened you are - keep it to adult friends and family. I hate to say "stay strong" because it sounds so cliched but it is so important that you do. And you don't have to do it alone. Surround yourself with the people who love you and can give you the strength to face this head-on. Eat what you can when you can. Take something for sleep. Seriously. You need it during such a scary time.

Know too that we are all here for you. I shall send all the positive, healing energy I have to you and your son (or daughter). *Hugs*

Answer 3

First, I am sorry your account was deleted. I know of no cause for offense against you.

Second, more importantly. I don't know if I can offer wisdom. There is no comfort to be had from humans at a time like this. I don't know why this trial has come upon you, or why your child must suffer. I can only imagine the fear and sorrow you are experiencing now- but as a mother, I can imagine it. Please don't be offended if I tell you that I believe the Lord has a purpose for everything, and that there is comfort and strength to be found with Him. I will pray very earnestly for you and your child. You may not believe in prayer, but please understand that it is all I can give, and I give it with the best of intentions. I will pray for your child's recovery, and for your health and peace. I will pray that both of you may be strengthened and perfected by this terrible ordeal. May God be with you and reveal Himself to you, for there is the wisdom and insight you desperately need.

Answer 4

Well, I am afraid I don't know you very well, so I'll tell you what I do when things get desperately bad. I take it up with my totem, asking the source of the sorry be taken away, and if it can't be removed, then for the strength to endure it. Other than that, reach out to your family and friends to be with you. Sometimes just having someone to talk to or to lend a hand now and then can mean everything in the world.

*hugs* I do wish there were some way I could take it all away hon.

Answer 5

God is merciful. He will help you in this hour of darkness. My children have been at deaths door many times. I have dedicated one of them to Jehovah's service if he would only save his life. He is still serving God today 25 years later.

Take your burdens to Jehovah God in prayer but remember to say "through Jesus Christ amen" so that you will be using the proper channel to get to God....and also when the problems become too heavy to throw on God he says, " roll them on me and I will sustain you".
He even saves our righteous tears in a skin bottle because he cares so much for us.

Then there is always the resurrection for those of us who are just too weak to fight the pain any longer.

You as a parent have to snap out of this. If you crumble now your child will have no hope. But if you remain strong the child will be of a healthy frame of mind and they say cancer can be overcome with the right doctors and a positive attitude.

You still have your beloved child with you...Enjoy every second. Take photos, make memories. Celebrate their life now.

Answer 6

My answer is not for you actually because it will seem to be out of place.

It may be too late in the day for me to give you an answer, but I hope and wish that your child recovers. If my prayer can work, it is offered with folded hands.

For others, I will say that our fate is no different and the ultimate will happen to us also. Since we are discussing spirituality in these columns, we need to divert our attention from the worldly pleasures and sorrows for a while and ponder over our inner self which is soul. Give a thought that we are eternal beings and can never die.

Answer 7

I don't know you at all, but am a mother of 5.
As a fellow parent, I am crushed for you. Please let me offer you hope...

"The Bible assures us: "Jehovah is near to those that are broken at heart; and those who are crushed in spirit he saves." (Psalm 34:18) Yes, more than anything else, a relationship with God can help you to cope ... How? All the practical suggestions offered thus far have been based on or are in harmony with God's Word, the Bible. Applying them can help you cope.

In addition, do not underestimate the value of prayer. The Bible urges us: "Throw your burden upon Jehovah himself, and he himself will sustain you." (Psalm 55:22) If talking out your feelings with a sympathetic friend can help, how much more will pouring out your heart to "the God of all comfort" help you!—2 Corinthians 1:3.

It is not that prayer simply makes us feel better. The "Hearer of prayer" promises to give holy spirit to his servants who sincerely ask for it. (Psalm 65:2; Luke 11:13) And God's holy spirit, or active force, can equip you with "power beyond what is normal" to go from one day to the next. (2 Corinthians 4:7) Remember: God can help his faithful servants to endure any and every problem they may face."
In addition...
The Bible offers a glorious hope for the Resurrection when death will be "swallowed up" and actually be "no more" Rev. 21:4
"“The wages sin pays is death,” wrote the apostle Paul, “but the gift God gives is everlasting life by Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 6:23) Through Jesus’ ransom sacrifice, God will remove human imperfection and death and will bestow upon obedient mankind the gift of everlasting life. "
"God is very concerned about your life and the lives of your loved ones. Indeed, “Jehovah . . . does not desire any to be destroyed but desires all to attain to repentance.” (2 Peter 3:9) Jehovah God wants you and your loved ones to live forever. His love is greater than that of imperfect humans. (Isaiah 49:15) So why not cultivate a good relationship with God? Then you may be able to help your loved ones to do the same. "

Answer 8

I'll pray for you. I haven't been through what you're going through so it's the best I can offer. It beats saying nothing.
A couple I know very well have four children - three with tumors. Two were operated on successfully, one died. She was nine and they have to live with that. You aren't alone. In their case, it might have been from the nuclear accident at Chernobyl. (I live in eastern Romania)
If you can talk to God yourself, even if it's mostly your anger, I think that's more useful than silence.
It's a great start that you're asking for advice.

Answer 9

I m realy very Sorry !! May God give you strength to face this situation !! i know its very hard to face the sufferings of your beloved ones........telling you something , two of my uncles died with cancer and one with heart attack within one month and that time i had to appear for my entry test for medicine........i can't forget that time how did i manage to study and to recover from these shocks and that were the first ever departures i saw in my family !now i have completed my graduation in Medicine and being at hospital for house job i saw the real miseries........Can't explain in words...i saw a mother dying and she was mother of two very yound kids, Another mother when her daughter was about to get married....yet again a girl whos marriage date was announced and she died of sudden liver failure..........And the most painful thing was to see a kid dying, who took DTT mistakenly and i kept awake all the night with him giving IV atropine and in the morning he died of suddenly with respiratory arrest ......and all of these incidences made me to cry alot, and there are many more such incidences to tell...and there i decided that i won't continue with medicine .....becuase its not easy to see these pains and suffering.........just want to tell you that see we are always put to a test in this world.....i m sure your kid would get fine soon with the grace of Almighty and you would be out of this oneday.....but God is testing you for giving pain to your beloved one......And i pray for your strength ! May God keep you strong !! All the luck for your kid !! and Btw i also got deleted once with 9000 points..! but i m here again ....so its just a game you know !! be strong !

Answer 10

Oh my God...thats the thing no parent wants to hear. I feel so sorry for you.

I really can't describe how you will be feeling right now but I will pray for you.
God Bless and be strong.

NEVER GIVE UP!