Our chat started with some formal introductions and ocassional flirts...but as time dragged on we realized many of our interests are similar and that one gives support when the other needs it and its so marvellous to feel its positive effect .
But alas!....i'm far away abroad here..i came here to continue my studies , while he's back at our home country....They say this kinda affair through the net won't work...but we have shared everything...most intimately...The question is are we just fools ? trying to form relationship that seems , at present , so impossible....though one of my friends said 'if its a true love...no matter where you are..no matter who you love is....love always wins....Nearness is nothing..'
I really love that guy....and i know he does too..but should i love him?
2007-04-10 19:26:39 · 15 answers · asked by Baby 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Hair
who is to say who we should or should not love? The strange thing about love is it is ever changing. We can love some one for years and then fall out of love (as in divorce) or we can love some one for years and continue to love them all of our lives. Love is just as alive as we human beings are. Love is hungry and must be feed in order to live. Nourish your love, feed your love. Love is more than physical contact. I have known people who are in love less marriages and they see each other every day. I have also know couples who are deeply in love and due to jobs only see each other once a month. I know of soldigers that have been away for years and still love their spouces and cant wait till the return. Love in different for every one. You are asking should you love him? I say why not, if he has not gave you a reason not to love him. No one can tell you if you should love him or not, that is a personal decission that only you can make.
Good Luck
2007-04-10 19:41:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby, would you like to try a little experiment? Okay, see how many days you can last without chatting with this guy......
I bet after just one day of no contact and you're already hurting, pining and crying.....can you imagine what it's like if you can't talk to (or e-mail) him for weeks???
Here's another: See how long you can last chatting with him and not get bored or tired.....can you stay on for 2 hrs. and never run out of stuff to talk about or games to play? How about 8 hours?
Final test: When was the last time you two had a fight? It can't be all that smooth, you know....there must be occasional sparks --- complete with dramatic apologies and all.
Don't worry about geography. Your situation is not impossible. Just enjoy what you have now and cross the bridge when you get there. Stay happy. Love always wins!
2007-04-10 20:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think your guys are fools, since I have also fallen in love with a chat friend of mine for a very long time. I was even ready to marry him without seeing him. The main problem with us that we live too far away from one another and we never manage to meet each other.
About your relationship I suggest that you should love him and try to enjoy the time being with him. It is a wonderful feeling.
P.s. I know some couples that met in a chat room and got married a little afterward!
2007-04-10 19:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by greeneyed_lioness23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question ends with a question: should I love him?. You shouldn't be asking permission to love some one. Well how you guys met is something that as been happening to a lot of people lately. Truth is even though he told you all those stuff, chances are they are not true. You can't really tell for sure. Be careful, don't give all your love and trust to someone, you haven't met in person just like that. There is no problem in liking him, but you need to see this person , to see if he is actually a real person and not some made up character. Protect yourself, protect your heart. Don't gave it up until you are 100% certain.
2007-04-10 19:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by Natty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you whether your should or should not love him.
However, I've seen couples start out as an online thing, and with some travel plans and eventual relocation, become spouses, and start families.
If you feel you love him, then you do. Love's an emotion.
If you want something more than just an online thing, start making arrangements to meet. Just remember to be safe! Always meet in public, and with friends, and inform others of where you're going. As much as you can share with someone, they can still be kinda crazy, online or not. Be safe, and good luck!
2007-04-10 19:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the "should" of it can only be decided upon between the two of you since you know each other better than either of you would be able to express in this short question. It could be too late for anything now but feelings, if your souls have bonded. I hope you find a way to get together in real life as soon as it's feasible for both of you.
2007-04-10 23:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by thellord_thighgod 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES, love him. I have the same situation dear. I'm in the Philippines and he is in Romania. We're both artists and we enjoy the same things-- we love each other and even planned to meet somewhere in China soon. What I can say is, this feeling that we have now for that 'love one' does not happen everyday. Go for it. As for me, I plan to finish my Master's degree and as soon as I finish it, I'll go meet him up. Tips: stay in touch with him, be transparent and never lie. It's okay to be a lovefool, it only happen ONCE in a LIFETIME, and that once in a lifetime experience might lead you to NIRVANA, your ultimate bliss. Ditching him up or avoiding the situation is the easiest way out to get out of the messy nutsy situation, but hey, give it a try or else, you'll end u asking too many WHAT IFs soon.
2007-04-10 19:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey sweety very few ppl in this world realise that physical presence isnt reqd for a true love to exist. And u are one of the lucky ones. So just believe in God , if he wants u to be together u will be. And if u both really love each other, u dnt have to worry bout the distance
May god bless ya both!
2007-04-10 19:37:41 · answer #8 · answered by PaRtY AnGeL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you did meet him online and you do not know how true the things that he said are true so he may be lying to you. Have either of you wanted or talked about meeting eachother? if you have then when you do meet you need to be extra careful. It most likely will be fine but you never know and it is allways better to see that yourself is protected.Good Luck!!!!!!!
2007-04-10 19:36:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you "love" someone online. that is somewhat creepy (your probably pretty young) and slightly dangerous. the internet is crazy now-a-days so dont meet him or anything. you should be friends online but you'll meet someone in real life and fall in love for real.
2007-04-10 20:48:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋