My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 months and we've been friends for a year. We are really close and spend almost every evening together for a few hours talking and such. We haven't had sex, and I have told him I want to wait. He respects that and said he only wants it when my head and heart and body are all ready. Well I know that I love him, yet he told me first. He told me he fell in love with me a while ago while we were still just friends. He says that I have changed his life and that he sees me in his future and he already talks about "marriage" and such. He asks me to never leave him and always be by his side. He says that I am all he wants and that he will never break up with me and I'm too important to lose.
It almost seems to good to be true. What do y'all think?? I take it as sincere...is it too soon?
2007-04-10 18:48:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 19 he's 24.
2007-04-10 18:59:22 · update #1
I agree with him. Make sure you are completely comfortable first and feel ready. You will probably know when you are ready. If you are asking then you probably are not. I wouldn't believe him about the marriage stuff though, way too early for that. If that is where you are expecting it to head if you do it then don't.
2007-04-10 18:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by marebear31485 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When is it too soon for what? Too soon to have sex, or too soon to feel like you are going to be together forever?
It is way too soon to believe something like he'll never break up with you, or you are going to get married or whatever.
On the good side, its certainly not too soon to have sex. People make way too big of a deal out of sex. Take it slow, and think about the other person (he should be thinking of you too - not just himself). If you want to have sex, have sex - and use a condom, or at least birth control (if you are 100% certain he is not carrying diseases).
The second time my wife and I spent the night together, she said that we should be responsible and take things slow. The next morning, she wouldn't take no for an answer. That was fourteen years ago.
But two months is way too short to know if you want to spend the rest of your life together.
2007-04-11 02:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by billycrypto 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot of this depends on whether you are 14 or 34. If you both are 14, then a lot of this may be wishful thinking If you are 34 and have been friends for a year, then it sounds pretty solid. I'm sure he is sincere, although he does seem to have a way with words.
2007-04-11 01:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by jimanddottaylor 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is way too soon! U are 19 u have so many fun things to do before you settle down. U havent even hit 21 yet, you may not see it yet but there is so much out there for you and you are about to give it all up for one guy who probablly isnt worth it.
2007-04-11 20:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by Beautiful Disaster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems perfect now but wait. Don't sleep with him until you're certain you're going to marry him.
2007-04-11 01:57:35 · answer #5 · answered by Dozer 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
He seems a nice guy to be with. Just take it a step at a time. Anything isn't called 'too soon'. Like too soon for wat? Sex?
It's up to you and its for you to decide.
He's a nice guy. So, just continue your relationship with him.
2007-04-11 01:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no its not too soon --- if he cares for and respects your wishes then just accept that and let the relationship mature --- best wishes
2007-04-11 01:55:13 · answer #7 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What do you feel?
That is more important.
Do you reciprocate ?
2007-04-11 01:54:02 · answer #8 · answered by indian b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋