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Question

I have a strong belief that I am in the friend zone with this one girl I like. I just really don't know what to do. I mean I don't want to completely ignore her, even though that may be the only way to get out of the friend zone? She goes to school out of state and I've only known her for 4 months, but the thing is, it seems like we talk very often. She is a big fan of texting and is usually the one who always texts me first, I take time and text her back, but I still text her back. I don't want to stuck as an "intellectual whore" I'm sure you have all heard. She won't talk on the phone with me, and when we hung out during her break it was fun, you know, coffee, laughs, smiles, good eye contact and even two hugs, even though the 1st one was a "half-hug". But she texted me later that night saying she was glad that we hung out and wanted me to go to visit her at her college. I don't know if I should go or not because I am afraid if I go, I will be viewed still as a "friend". I hate this.

Answer 1

Your holding back buddy because of your fear of being thought of as a friend... so in a way your making yourself the friend. I've been in this place with the ladies countless times, the best way out, quite funny really, is to talk about sex... not with them, no, but history, perception, interest.... that helps to bring out weather this is any physical interest. Let you in on a little psychology secert, shhhh, people don't keep friends that they think are ugly, not like that. Yea well have people we feel sorry for and give a friend hand to, but you don't go out of your way for them. So hopfully bringing the conversation a little towards physical intimacy, the expeniences you've had and stuff like that, stay away from showing interest in it with her unless she shows it first, then that might give you the confidence you need to move it forward. I've lost a chance with a lot of ladies because I didn't drop my own insecurities to finaly let them know how much I feel for them, if you can aviod making that mistake you'll be a happier fella. Besides if she shows that it is just frineds she wants (which really would mean she is an insecure person that doesn't want to loss a person in her life, doesn't mean your really friends in that senerio thou.... happens) then you'll know you don't have to worry about her any more for that....