Is what i did ok???

Question

this happened around 2006...

i am so against smoking and drinking coz it may damage the health of the person and also can damage my health... i had a bf who does both but mostly smoking... he started smoking around 15... we got together when i was 15 and he was 16... while us being "together" i really want to help him stop smoking... but he said, "he can't "... he also says stuff to me that hurts me... when he says these things... it makes me feel that our relationship is nothing... it's just a summer thing... but he still says i love you and stuff... but there are more things that he says hurts me... A LOT!!! i also have the feeling that he is with another girl... he also has bad habbits such us cutting classes... he doesnt mind if he does that... now i'm one year higher that him in highschool... so i broke up with him coz there's more pain in me in our relationship... is what i did ok???

his parents doesnt know he does both...

Answer 1

Yes what you did is completely ok what may have been right for you back then may not be now you have grown up and apparently he hasent and he doesnt really want to most girls want boys that they can be proud of and not ones that they are going to have to take care of. If he doesnt have enough respect for himself to go to school, get a good education and make something of himself then you are better off without him.

Answer 2

Yes, what you did was ok. In fact it was better than ok, because of the fact that it was hurting you more than not. A relationship should be of understanding, trust, and all that other good stuff, your partner bf/gf should be an up to your life not a burden. I think what you did was ok, you were looking out for your future, and feelings. You're in high school too, one shouldn't dwel on one person that hurt them, you're young and you have your whole life ahead of you to find that right guy, don't sweat it right now

Answer 3

What you did is way better than ok....it is great!! You really need to be treated with respect in that type of relationship and if he says mean things to hurt you than he is no good for you.
Sounds to me like he is not really interested in making a better life for himself. I get the impression when you say "smoke"...maybe it is not cigarettes, but maybe pot. Look if he wants to sit around and get high..let him, but there is no reason for you to stick it out with him.
I think that you did a good thing for yourself...more power to ya!!!

Answer 4

Well, there's nothing wrong in what you did. I guess what you did was necessary. However, you shouldn't dictate any man. (e.g. smoking or drinking) Because how you may feel. But you shouldn't sit by and let him do it to you either. He has a right to make choices. And so do you. If you feel guilty. Ask yourself this question, what do you owe him if he treated you wrong?

Answer 5

If you can find more negative things about a guy than positive things, you need to let them go - no questions asked, no excuses, no explaination needed. This is also true with any relationship, friends too. You can't (and shouldn't try) change them, so change the scenery!

Answer 6

It was the best thing you could have done...for yourself (you deserve better) and for him (to show him that if he acts like a looser, a treasure won't stick around). From now on never look twice at a guy that smoke (be careful, they try to hide it from us good girls)

Answer 7

Yes Honey-----please believe me when I tell you you did do the right thing--he was not good for you---forget him and move on in your life------you will soon find romance with a guy who will treat you better------try to find a non drinker and non smoker if you can
those are nasty habits and are something you cannot change in a person.

Answer 8

It's a good thing you did dump him. If he's making you feel bad about yourself then that's reason enough, but if he's putting your health in jeopardy then you really shouldn't be so upset with yourself. Also if you can't trust him then why be with him? Trust yourself, you did the right thing.

Answer 9

You're still young, and it sounds like you're way more mature than this guy. What you did is absolutely OK. You have the right to choose who you involve yourself with. If you think you can do better (and it sounds like you can) then by all means, move on.

Answer 10

absolutely. You owe him nothing. You are in highschool now. Bigger and Better fish my dear. Trust me, you don't want to take care of this guy for the rest of your life. He has obviously learned his bad "traits" fro his parents. The chances of him changing are nill. Plus, you need to learn this. You can never change anyone. Pick someone to date that you dont want to change. You will find this to be more rewarding.