my best friend is a guy, and im a girl. we've always kind of liked eachother. but he always says he doesnt want a girlfriend. everybody thinks we're going out since we're so close, so sometimes he'll jokingly tell people we are going out. all his friends tell me how much he likes me and ask me when hes gonna ask me out... but i dont think hes going to. my best friend also says that he hates it when girls ask guys out... so i can't ask him out. i really like him, and i'm not sure if we even shold go out because it migh ruin our friendship...
ahh what should i do!?
2007-04-10 18:06:25 · 10 answers · asked by Nicole3232 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know a lot of people wish that the person they are going out with/involved with was their best friend. So now you have a decision to make.
The question is "Are you willing to take the chance that you could loose your Best Friend, because you want a relationship, and he has already said he doesn't want one (with anyone)?"
If the answer is yes, then go for it.
If no, then leave things as they are, and who knows, something may develop later on.
Either way, only you can decide which you want more.
2007-04-10 18:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're right it might ruin your friendship, but then again it may make a great marraige also. If you can see the two of you having a wonderful marraige then go for it because your husband/wife should always be your best friend! Of course that saying is meant for after the fact! (after you are already married) If you don't see the relationship being able to have the possibility of marraige then don't do it. After all, you don't want to lose your best friend! If you can't ask him out then tell your friends to drop clues to him that you are very interested in more than just friendship and he needs to ask you out or you could drop subtle hints to him that you want him as a boyfriend!
2007-04-11 01:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by trisha l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love or "dating" can ruin a friendship forever. Then again it can be the best decision you ever make in your life. But if you aren't sure and just sort of like him I would say wait. Let your friendship grow and if it's meant to be then it will happen. Don't push for it if he isn't ready and willing. You might lose him in the process and that can be devistating. Just let things happen. Love with a bestfriend can be great but it takes time. Let it grow. He's not going anywhere.
2007-04-11 01:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by Lovely Day Dreams... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do it.
Some of the best lifelong partnerships (marriages or other) start as best friends.
Just make sure there is that sexual spark between you both, Good mates will always be mates, but if you dont have the hots for each other, you never will
2007-04-11 01:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by bob_the_boozer_au 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it even if you dont continue a relationship your frienship will always be there plus being friends will make being lovers so much better
2007-04-11 01:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by carebear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married my best friend!!
If you do not want to ask him out....lay a kiss on him when the moment is right...if you two are close..you'll know exactly when to do it!
2007-04-11 01:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you odnt want to break up youre friendship with him then dont ask him for adate then? let him ask you outi nstead whenever the right time and moment to do it for hisself . just by youre self and just wait til what going happen .
2007-04-11 01:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by statecalifornia2009 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why not my best frind was a girl and now we have been marryed for 4 years so go for it,
2007-04-11 01:10:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well tell one of your friends to tell him that if he really loves you he would ask you out
2007-04-11 01:10:22 · answer #9 · answered by ☊ιlιlι♪♩ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why don't you give him little hints that youwould be willing to go out with him.
2007-04-11 01:09:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋