my bf is absolutely amazing at sex. he can almost always satisfy me just by intercourse but sometimes i want more just for variety or when i need more. i really like oral but he has never tried it and is uncomfortable with it. i dont want to push him but i do need something extra sometimes and he gets upset because he thinks he wasnt good enough and thats y i need extra. if hes done then we r done. he wants to satisfy me but doesnt understand that its normal for women to need more no matter how many times i tell him. any ideas
2007-04-10 17:41:02 · 11 answers · asked by avalon552 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know how he feels. I don't do oral either. I can not go down on a girl. I can't let a chick go down on me either. It grosses me out.
2007-04-10 17:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jeremy Medlock 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand what you're missing.... I've always found the oral make women come so many times in one evening its always on my list. As a matter fact it's usually first on my list... that's because a woman's first orgasm issues with most of the pope to obtain. Women have a built-in ability to come a lot quicker the second time. Maybe not as strong could as you get into that 10th time... who cares?
You need to talk to him carefully. I think you need to start off with "intercourse is so exciting with you I really want to try some other things to see if they are as exciting. Let's try something new to please each other even more.... what would you like to do that we haven't done? What every picks say OKay and I would like you to perform oral on me. But I'm going to instructed exactly how and going to go very slow. First is there anything that bothers you about my taste or smell? Whatever correct it right away. If he still a bit shy... believe it or not they actually make an oral sex condom... call a dental dam... it's a thin latex sheet 10" x 6" that would cover everything that might be bothering him. These are called Sherr Glyde Dams. This would protect him from whatever he thinks might be bothering him. Maybe when he sees how will you like it he might try getting rid it.
But some men have some serious hangups about this and certainly some cultures have a big hangup about.
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2007-04-11 22:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by AdviceManHere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this: Go down on him and slowly swing around into a 69 position. Sway your cooch over his head while you really get into licking his penis. Hover over his face and let him get used to looking at and smelling your thang.
I'm a guy's guy and I like giving my girl head. I got used to it and now I'm into it. As a result, she's been more generous and much better in giving me pleasure.
I don't buy that "just not into it" crap... it's an excuse covering up fear... of being grossed out? Tell him to grow up and be a man... while giving him head. Works every time.
2007-04-11 03:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get him to read any literature on women and sex. He sounds inexperienced with women. Because its fairly common knowledge that women need more than just sexual intercourse to "finish" sometimes. -- Its just the way things were made.
2007-04-10 17:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i can't get oral from my woman so if you figure this out let me know i guess you will have to get someone to do oral on you i would be happy to do it.
2007-04-10 17:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever been kinky with him? try some small role play, show him what you want him to do. ask him about sexual fantasies. when me and my bf are doing the deed i bring his hands and move his body to places i want him to go and i make sounds that mean its good, i like it. try that.
good luck
2007-04-10 17:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by aNna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why is it that a guy expects to orgasm everytime but doesnt think a girl deserves the same? i dont know cant help you...
maybe you should get yours first instead of him getting his.
2007-04-10 17:49:44 · answer #7 · answered by ...hello? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him! dont date a man that doesnt give head gurl
2007-04-10 17:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by cmitchelle71@yahoo.com.au 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he's not willing to please you he's not worth your time my exboyfriend never wanted to go down on me and he was an emotionally draining prick.
maybe I'm jumping to conclusions but he should TRY and go down on you at least once...
and why does he need to guilt trip you??? You should be guilt triping him!!!!
2007-04-10 17:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by asturiasangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you perform oral on him ?
Then he should certainly return the favor..
Tell him so...
2007-04-10 17:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋