Should i have a threesome?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months,& we are in a very loving and trusting relationship. However just recently i told him i was bisexual, and he was pleasantly surprised, and we started joking about having a threesome with another girl. But then it came a more serious conversation and were actually planning on doing it. Im up for it, but im worried that he might like her better, or think she is more attractive than me,he says that he only loves me and prefers me and that it would just be a one time thing. He says this has always been his fantasy. But im still worried, should i do this?

Answer 1

Personally i think it depends on his relationship with the other girl, i would be worried if it was one of his close firends. Remember you can back out of it and he shouldn't force you into it. Talk to him more about it and ask him who the other girl would be, perhaps he can let you opt to pick the other girl which could shed some of the worry. Ask yourself how you would feel after the threesome. The best advice is just to talk more to your boyfriend, hope this helps.

Answer 2

Don't do it. It will ruin your relationship with him. All men fantasize about a threesome, but there is a reason sex was created for two people only. One with an outlet and the other with a cord. The puzzle fits together that way for a reason. There is also a reason that the bible says that creation is only possible when a man and woman have sex. That's why two men or two women cannot make a baby. Sex is intended for one man and one woman! Bringing someone else into your bedroom is a no-no. Why would you want to share your man anyway? Would you actually be able to forget seeing your man have sex with another woman? I doubt it. It will ruin your relationship, and it wouldn't be a one time thing because if you do it he'll eventually ask for it more! Would he be open to a threesome with 2 men? I highly doubt it. He only fantasizes having sex with two women at the same time, and he'll probably object to even the thought of having another man touch him sexually. He probably wouldn't like sharing you with another man either! If you have to ask for other people's opinions then the answer is no!

Answer 3

If you really have a loving and trusting relationship, why would you want to jeopordize that by bringing another person into the mix. By inviting another person into your "bedroom", you are opening the door to some potential hurt in the future. What is shared between you and your boyfriend should be special and sacred between the two of you and not carelessly thrown away for a night of fun. My suggestion would be if you really decide to do this, you think about what the consiquences of your actions could do in the long run to your relationship. It could possibly turn into a habit, and you have nothing special left between the two of you.

Answer 4

All valid concerns. He sounds very trusting, is he not worried about her being better than him? That is the most dreamed about situation for men, myself included. I honestly don`t know, would you two still be together, if your sex life wasn`t as good?, Is yours a deep relationship, or is it just good sex? You`ve been together 9 months, could you wait another 6-9 months? I`ve always leaned toward better safe than sorry, but i might have to go for it!

Answer 5

Yes.
Tape it and e-mail me a copy.

All kidding aside, the real answer is NO.

Threesomes end in jealousy a lot, and that will end a relationship fast. Give it some time, and talk about it again in six months or so.

If he really understands you he'll understand. If he's just looking for sex with other women, he'll push the subject until it's uncomfortable and/or you cave and end up hating yourself for it.

After you've been together for longer you might not have the doubts.

Answer 6

It is definitely a gamble. Once spoiled, will he want to have her involved all of the time? Will he be more attracted to her body? Who knows. Threesomes are always a gamble. They can very easlily cause breakups in relationships. Too much opportunity for jealousy on both yours and your boyfriend's part. Be careful, if you truly love this guy.

Answer 7

when you told he you are bi-sexual & started joking about a threesome it never occured to you that he might seriously want to try it. sure it's always been his fantasy, most men will tell you they have fantasized about it. sounds like if your concerned he might like the other woman better than your relationship may not be as "loving & trusting" as you think.

Answer 8

Don't bother. Guys say things to make us girls do things.

He wants to have sex with other women. PERIOD. I know it sucks to hear that but it's true - guys are frequently thinking about having sex with other women. It's a guy thing.

As for the threesome - don't bother if you are worried. The reason you are worried is because your guy is directing you in the right direction.

Answer 9

No, if you really wanted to you would be sure and comfortable with the decision.

If you value the relationship don't do it because it will risk ending it-no matter how much he loves you.

How would he feel about a threesome with another guy?

Unless you really want this, don't do it.

Sometimes fantasy s hould stay fantasy.

Answer 10

The simple solution is: you pick the girl. Pick a girl that you know isn't as attractive as you, that you know he won't like as much as you. Obviously, still pick someone you're both going to enjoy having there, but someone that makes you feel secure.

If you can't do that, then don't do it.