My boyfriend made a bet with one of his fellow football players, and he lost. His losing deal was that he'd go to our prom with the other guy dressed jokingly as a girl. Besides not going with me, I'm mad at him because he's seemingly way more into this than I thought. He's searching out for outfits that fit perfectly and would look good on him, wants to get his makeup and hair professionally done instead of letting me just play with it, and seems really excited about his date. And he seems to have no interest in me now, just this date that is supposively a joke. Should I be worrying? I already have to go to prom by myself and watch him like this, should I be worried I'm going to see more than just him on a joke date? This is our senior prom, by the way, after four years together.
2007-04-10 17:20:44 · 12 answers · asked by Kat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have a suggestion.
Help him buy a full female outfit, but not a prom outfit. Cute top, miniskirt, heels, lingerie, etc. Take him to a beauty salon for an eyebrow waxing and a permanent. Take him to a cosmetics counter for a full makeup job. Then go out together to a club as two girlfriends.
Observe him very carefully at the club. Is he enjoying the attention? Does he let himself dance with guys? Or is he is embarrassed as anything, and can't wait to leave and put his guy clothes back on?
I think after this, you will have your answer.
2007-04-11 09:11:48 · answer #1 · answered by fcas80 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and him have some real problems and need to fix them or break up.You cheated on him no matter what.But now he's punishing you and that is not right.You need to set him straight as well as yourself.The trust will never be the same.I would stop my service to the cell company and get a new one,Show him that you don't need him.Lock whatever you want.Why does he have your friends numbers that is not right.! You made a mistake and he's never going to live it down.He's going to far.So he can lock his phone and sleep with it that is not right! Your an adult and he is being possessive of all your actions.You may both love each other but this will never work.He lost trust in you forever.And if he says he'll let it go Do't believe him.He wants control of your life.Now are you going to let him have the control.Even if you someday you marry this infidelity you did to him will never leave his heart.So I say go have your fun and live life until you can honestly be true to one.And when you do meet someone else remember don't answer and tell about your past.That is your past and noone but you need to know of it.that is all private.Men don't know how to let go so whats in your closet stays in the closet.Enough is enough from him.
2016-05-17 07:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.... it seems you have a real dilemma here, the first thing you should do is let him see the R.Kelly tape (trapped in the closet) all the way through and see what he thinks about it. What you have on your hands or at least what it seems like is that you have a boyfriend in denial for the moment. Guys can be neglectful toward their women when they are around their other male friends, but there's a difference between not paying attention and just ignoring you.
2007-04-10 17:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by misse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was disrespectful to ruin your special night as he did. A joke is a joke, but he is taking it way too far. In your place, I would tell him that if he has another date for the prom, then it is only fair that you have one too. Ask someone else, if he doesn't back down. Tell him how much he is hurting you. You deserve better than that type of treatment. (Will he be taking his friend to your wedding next??)
2007-04-10 17:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bf needs to recognize your feelings. This is your only senior prom. He should pay off his friend or offer his friend an alternate bet winning so he can dress nice and take you to the prom.
2007-04-10 17:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by elwood99us 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um...that seems really odd, he'd be that excited to go with another guy dressed as a girl! Sounds as if he's a bit immature or something. Espiecally since you've been together for 4 years. Have you told him how you feel and talked about it with him?
2007-04-10 17:24:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have one of your girlfriends dress in a tux and be your date. See how he likes it.
But anyway, That's a little odd... It's funny for him to be obsessing over it like that, but maybe if you spoke to him about it he'd back off a little. Communication is key to any healthy relationship.
2007-04-10 17:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by Kristin C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your bf is being such an idiot with this bet he made with his football players.........he souldnt of made a bet in the first place how childish of him...........and now after 4 years his treating you like **** when he sould be taking you his gf to the pram and not a joke date..........i think you sould tell him how you feel about this bet he made and that he will be going to the pram with a date that is not you......i think he cares about showing off to his friends more then how you are feeling about the situation........i bet he didnt tell you about the bet they made.............its your decision to go to the prom or not........read what i have said and think about what you want.....and if i can help you any more please feel free to talk to me
2007-04-10 17:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by badgirlforlife007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YEAH I THINK YOU SHOULD BE WORRIED. IF YOU GUYS HAVE BEEN TOGETHER 4 YEARS AND HE WOULD RATHER GO WITH A GUY TO YOU SENIOR PROM THAN SCREW HIM HE SHOULDN'T HAVE MAD THE BET TO BEGIN WITH IF HE WANTED TO GO WITH YOU!
2007-04-10 17:30:21 · answer #9 · answered by Amy M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might as well face it....after 4 years, you have managed to turn him gay. Surprise him and go with a hetro.
2007-04-10 17:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋