Why do I turn into the people I most dislike?
Peer pressure. Why have I become such a cold and heartless jerk? How can I turn back into the person I want to be? I hate college. I have become more like the people I was trying to avoid. Why did this happen to me. Talk deep. It affected my daily routines. I have too many problems. I've lost myself.
2007-04-10 16:37:08 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Thank you snagelfritz.
2007-04-10 16:52:27 · update #1
You are a follower and not a leader. You have to become more confident and then you lead and others follow. A leader is steadfast in what they feel is correct! Followers do what the leader say. What you have allowed to happen is you do what others say, even if, it not what you believe! A Leader would challenged their beliefs and as a result others that felt like you would have followed you! I hope you see what I try to say without writing a book. Know what you believe and why then you able to stand up and not be swayed by some other belief.
2007-04-10 16:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of growing up is the ability to form ideals- the 'ideal date,' the 'ideal man,' 'ideal woman,' 'ideal boss,' 'ideal college student,' etc. It takes time and experience to realize that 'ideal' isn't the same as 'perfect.' The more we get to know someone (including ourselves), the easier it is to see the imperfections.
There are two ways to relate to this knowledge that people (including ourselves) are not perfect- one is to stress out about it...the other is to breathe a big sigh of relief.
Regarding turning into the people we don't like, sometimes the easiest way is to stop thinking about them so much... or being around them more than is necessary.
Instead of making comparisons with other people (good or bad people), when you have an impulse to do something the 'nice' you would do, don't stop and analyze it- just do that nice thing. Sooner than you think, you'll become the nice person that you know you really are.
2007-04-11 00:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by Chuck P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really all just part of growing up and finding yourself. the fact that you can recognize that you've changed is good, the hard part will be changing. like yourself again. do what you want to do, and do things because you want to. don't worry about what anyone else is doing or saying. some may say that sounds a bit selfish, but you need to be about you, and be happy with who you are.
2007-04-10 23:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by crazycandi2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go 2 peekvid and watch the movie the secret
2007-04-11 00:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋