Why Does He Do This, and How Do I Get Him To Calm Down?

Question

met this guy in college.He's from Chicago & both parents are lawyers. He's about 5'5 and 125#.He has long thin black hair, tattoos, and a tounge ring. He wears big baggy clothes, loves to flaunt his parents' money and flashy cars, & drinks &smokes extensively but does not do drugs. We talk almost every night online & on the phone. When we do, he expresses how into me he is & how he will do anything for me, he loves me unconditionally, etc.He knows I feel the same way.We don't see each other much in person b/c of both of our overloaded schedules, but when we do, he gets extremely nervous. I mean, to the point of physically shaking.This can even be when I'm doing nothing more than sitting next to him, just talking. He also doesn't say much in person, I'm usually the one that does all the talking.One day, shortly after I met him, he wanted to show me the tattoo on his back.When he took off his shirt, I could see that he was visibly shaking. Why is this?? How can I get him to relax?

Answer 1

He could have an anxiety disorder.. .some people do well on the phone and have problems with interacting with people. Try talking to him about it...or his parents... be patient as well.

Answer 2

Its always easier to talk over the internet or text messages than it is to talk in person. I had a boyfriend in college that was kind of like that, it was because I was his first girlfriend and he was just really nervous around me. Try to get him to relax but it may take some time. You just have to decide if he's worth waiting for.

Answer 3

He is too short. He makes money. He smokes. I don't know.

Answer 4

Have him take a nap before he sees you.

Answer 5

Are you sure he's not on drugs? Just making sure...