should she convert to Islam or divorce?

Question

Dear friends..Need your suggestion on this. I have a friend, who is a punjabi and has got married to a muslim. Now she has to convert. So should she stick with sikhism or convert because later when she has family, they will also have to follow as well. Thanks

Answer 1

She should divorce, otherwise she has to share her husband with three other women. A Muslim husband can have four wives at the same time as per shariah.

Secondly, a traitor who ditched her to get her converted after marriage will never make a good husband on whom she can trust for whole life. And to stay with him will be a veritable hell.

There is only one way to save the marriage; he can opt for conversion to Hinduism of which Sikhism is a sub-sect. She, I am sure will have no objection.

Answer 2

In the name of Allah the most Gracious the most Merciful.
This is a very serious matter and needs advice of scholars or
people of knowledge.This is not the place for a serious
question like this that can effect lives of people as at yahoo
answere we get questions and answers from some very baised and ignorant people who are just fooling around and
do not know their noses from their mouths.I am going to give
some advice only because it involves a Muslim and i hope
that the couple concerned will follow up.

You have stated that your friend is a non musli m who has
already married the muslim man.
As far as my knowledge of Islam goes a Muslim man can
only marry a muslim woman and in some case a christian.
A muslim woman can only marry a muslim man .
So if this muslim man married this punjabi girl as a non muslim then the marriage contract is invalid under Islamic law
and any relations they have had as husband and wife amounts to adultry.
The muslim man has to stay away from his wife until he consults with a muslim scholar whereupon they most probarly will dissolve the marriage , and the man has to repent to Allah the almighty for this terrible sin .The woman will then
have a choice to convet to islam and repent for what they have done and only then they would be allowed to be married
again otherwise islam does not recoginise intercast marriages unless one of the other party converts before
marriage.
All these things should have been sorted out before the marriage .Islam is a beautiful religion and has a wonderful
life style it is only the ignorant muslisms who earn a bad
reputation for it because of their ignorance.My scincre acvice
to the sister is to seperate ,learn what is Islam from authentic
sources , accept islam for the sake of God almighty, get
married to the muslim man in the proper Islamic way and
Practise the religion and make a place for herself and her
family in Jannat InshaAllah.

Answer 3

I am a white atheist girl, who faced a similar problem. I dated an Afghan muslim for 5 years. We eventually got engaged.

It comes down to what she wants. For me, putting my hand up and receiting the words in Arabic to become a muslim mean't nothing to me aside from the fact I would get to be with the man I loved. He knew how I felt and how I was raised, we'd been together 5 years and always respected each others choices in religion. However to be married I did need to be technically a muslim. His family never asked me questions or expected me to be a good muslim, they hoped (as anyone would in that circumstance) that I believed in it, but I was never directly asked. Maybe because they didn't want the truth.

As long as the two are OK with their decisions and have discussed how they'd raise children, it's fine. The truth is, raising a muslim child in a nonmuslim country is really hard for 2 muslim parents. If her heart is not 100% into Islam, the kids won't be either. This was something I discussed with my partner too and it was something he had a hard time dealing with.

The bottom line is, they need to deeply DEEPLY discuss all of these questions and find out answers. If the outcome is not what either side desires, they need to back out now.

I hate seeing religion come between two people in love. But unfortunately it does. :(

Answer 4

Every action should have a reason behind. If there is any defect on this relation, the conversion should be according to the problem. (If sikhs are paid a ransom by Govt, the Muslim would convert to Sikh, if permitted. Create a reason for the conversion) then do the best.

Answer 5

in ideal case, her would-be husband should be open-minded enough to let her be what she was before. Even if she wasn't that religious, he shouldn't force her to become a Muslim. As for their future kids, I think Islamic law allows them to marry only if the kids are raised as Muslims.

Your friend's choice here if she is in love with that person. But, knowing that Islam is a one-way street and generally, does not entertain different religious viewpoints.

Good luck though.

Answer 6

He should divorce her! Muslims can only marry other muslims christians and jews. As a muslim ,she shouldnt convert to islam unless she believes in it, not because of a man!

Answer 7

Tell her to keep her identity as she likes it. If I were in her place, I would have continued to practice my religion and respected my spouse's religion also. And gradually I would have converted myself as also my spouse to the universal riligion ie Sanatan Vedic Dharma. All human beings are entitled to follow this religion. The children thus brought in this world, will automatically follow this true religion and even be grateful to us.

It is a pity that in our this world, cultural religions such as Hinduism, Muslim, Christianity etc are accepted, whereas the religion for the soul which is eternal and universal is not even talked about!

I wish your friend a successful marriage.

Answer 8

The couple should have discussed this prior to marriage.

How does your friend currently feel about converting? I assume that she and her husband have discussed this. What are his feelings?

Ultimately, this is a decision for her to make after a great deal of discussion with her husband. The religious differences were obviously not enough to keep them from marrying. I hope that they are able to come to a decision that is beneficial for the both of them and their future family.

:-)

Answer 9

Why does she have to convert? Islam does not force wives to convert. A Muslim man may marry non-Muslim women. It is true the children must be brought up Muslim, but the rules are the same for Catholics, too.
Her husband may be forcing her to convert, but the religion does not require it.

Answer 10

it entirely depends on her . also is her husband forcing her to convert to islam.? if yes has he really loved her. ?
if he has really loved her he should not bother about getting her converted . nor she should feel like getting converted.

bcos she is the same person he loved before getting married right ?

why doesnt he become a sikh if he is trying to convert her ?
if he is not forcing her forget and contine the married life .

wheres the problem?