ive been married,im 31,shes 23,i have 2 girls i see every other weekend.she has no kids,lives with her mom in a trailer park.
she seems intrested in me really only on the nights she goes out to the bars.i usually always get a call when shes been drinking,i go out with her meet her she comes home with me.
is it just senseless really?
2007-04-10 15:48:06 · 11 answers · asked by stabone315 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not if you just want senseless sex because from what you've described that sounds like the extent of it.
I wouldn't make any long term plans.
2007-04-10 15:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by milkman24_99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it certainly doesn't sound like a relationship with a sound foundation! Think about it. You yourself said she is only interested in a good time ("only on the nights she goes out to the bars").
It's not senseless if you 1) also just want a good time, 2) don't care if you have picked up any diseases since it's obvious she would do the same with anyone, 3) are not interested in a relationship with a woman of quality, 4) don't care how such a creature would affect your children.
However, if you have any discernment at all I would stop seeing such an immature person. It may take her years before she grows past this stage; if ever. Face it, she lives with her Mom in a trailer park. She has never had to support herself and hasn't a clue what it takes to be a mature adult. Is this what you want? If it is, then by all means continue. If not, don't. But if you continue, know what you are doing and why. Do not expect someone who will back you up when the chips are down.
2007-04-10 15:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question, can a 23 y/o girl and a 31 y/o man work in a relationship?
Yes, it can happen. There will be some adjustment in terms of interests, life experiences, life stage, etc, but it is possible.
There is a bigger question and more important than that one is your statement.
You are using the word relationship.
Based on what you describe I am not sure she considers your interaction a relationship or that she is looking for one in the sense that you seem to be looking at it.
You know the situation, so you are in the best position to determine if this makes sense, but try seeing her under other circumstances. That should help you determine if indeed you have potential for a relationship you can work on.
Good Luck
2007-04-10 16:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by David R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 23 and my bf was 30 and it worked out for a few years haha. Neither of us had been married or had kids so thats the difference with your and my situation but I say give it a go if you want to you don't have anything to lose from trying
2007-04-10 15:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by wilo_chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is 10 years older than me...and we met in a bar...*sigh*...I was 24 when we met...but we both had been married before, so we had similar maturity levels.
The age difference alone is not a reason to send your future to dispair...but if you can't see her being a mother to your kids at any time in your future, and it really is not much more than a bar romance, I would think about having a sober talk with her.
Follow your heart.
2007-04-10 15:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by sincerelysarah117 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but I had a similar situation as yours, a 29 year old woman wanted to hook up with me and I'm only 18. Felt really weird, not sure, but does that seem kinda wrong or what?
2007-04-10 15:56:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it can there is only 8 years difference my wife was 19 years younger than me and that worked for a long time till I got cancer, if I hadn't we would probably have still been together, Go for it, its not age in years its age in heart and mind
2007-04-10 15:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by decrepid1958 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know!! My husband is 24 years older than me and we made through it. I think it has to do with how mature she is. Even at 17, I was mature enough to deal with the wise cracks and the discriminations. I love him so much. Nothing can change that.
2007-04-10 15:54:34 · answer #8 · answered by lloydmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing wrong with the age or the positions that you are both in. its her lack of consideration and interest that makes me think this isnt a good relationship. she just wants someone to go to when shes feeling lonely. she wants a guy but you arent the one she wants. shes just keeping you till someone better comes along
2007-04-10 16:02:41 · answer #9 · answered by avalon552 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't love supposed to be able to break down all boudaries? (My grandparents were 10 years apart and they had 6 kids!)
2007-04-10 15:53:52 · answer #10 · answered by Eryn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋