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We have no formal or court ordered custody agreement, only a child support judgement. I have decided that until his father gets professional help for his alcoholism, that I will not allow him to take him from where we live, back to his home. He can only come here and visit with him. If he pursues this in court, do I have a right to request he have only be allowed visitation in my son's primary home (mine). It doesn't necessarily have to be supervised, just away from the alcohol. Aside from his alcoholism, he and I are probably as close as people can be without being together. We both love our son very much, and care for eachother very deeply. I have no problem with him being in my home, thats not the issue, I just don't want his son growing up around a drunk. I don't want him to have a lifetime of dissapointments because his father can't get his act together. He hasn't been a threat as of yet, but who knows...it can only get worse if he doesn't get professional help.

2007-04-10 14:35:26 · 5 answers · asked by AnswerWhore 2 in Family & Relationships Family

I have physical and pretty much legal custody of my son. His father is an alcoholic and wont to go to rehab..?
We have no formal or court ordered custody agreement, only a child support judgement. I have decided that until his father gets professional help for his alcoholism, that I will not allow him to take him from where we live, back to his home. He can only come here and visit with him. If he pursues this in court, do I have a right to request he have only be allowed visitation in my son's primary home (mine). It doesn't necessarily have to be supervised, just away from the alcohol. Aside from his alcoholism, he and I are probably as close as people can be without being together. We both love our son very much, and care for eachother very deeply. I have no problem with him being in my home, thats not the issue, I just don't want his son growing up around a drunk. I don't want him to have a lifetime of dissapointments because his father can't

2007-04-10 14:35:51 · update #1

5 answers

it's a shame he hasn't gotten professional help... he will do that when he is ready, and i hope it's not when he hits rock bottom.

you can probably get good advice and support if you attend some Alanon meetings... almost every community has at least one or two a week. Alanon is for people who live with or have an alcoholic in their lives.

Stopping your child's father from seeing the child is a good idea for now.... you will no longer be enabling him to take the child out of the home while he is under the influence of alcohol. This is a start.

I also wanted to mention that, if your child's father decides to take you to court, you or your attorney could ask the judge for a psychological evaluation of your ex. These eval's ALWAYS reveal alcoholic behavior and thinking, and a psychiatrist administers the testing. So, it would be likely he would be ordered to get into some sort of treatment if he wanted to continue visiting his son, or else would have to have supervised visitation because of his issues.

This is my best advice... take care of you.

sending prayers and hugs.

2007-04-10 14:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I hate to recommend cutting a child off from his father, especially a son, but you are clearly the better parent. This is why you have custody in the first place. He is not serious about shaping up. It doesn't matter who or what caused these problems: that is not the point. He needs to get counseling and rehab. It can take two years or more. I suggest moving on and placing your hopes with another man.

2007-04-10 14:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I would address the issue in court. Maybe that will wake him up they can order detox and AA meetings. His visitation can be based on following those orders. Supervised is the best thing to ask for. Sounds like you could have a wonderful family life if he would just clean up. Hope it all works out!!!

2007-04-10 14:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Just Take him to court and say hay! if you dont pull yourself together... you cant see my son ( that is if the judge says thats the consiquence!) I know what your going through and just do what you can.... no body wants there kid or any child to be growing around a alchohalic....and if he still doesnt go to rehab or anything...well...just hope that he doesnt do anything stupid around your son....

2007-04-10 14:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by baby 4 · 0 0

get a court order

2007-04-10 14:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0 0

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