Are my parents being unreasonable and lazy? (honest answers)?

Question

i recently just saved up enough money for a ps3 20gb, from money from relatives from holidays and other little things, my parents have honestly barely helped me get the 500. anyway, i got enough money, and today i asked my parents if they would simply give me a ride and pay the difference for the tax (i need like 30 bucks for tax, not too much) so i ask them tonight at the table if they would give me a ride and pay difference, my dad immediatly refuses with no reason as to why and refuses to pay difference (mind you he never helped me get the money for the ps3). now my dad starts work at 8am and is finished at 6. thats 10 hours. skool for me is 7. he claims to be tired everyday after work. its BS b/c he so,etimes does stuff arounmd the house easily and watches tv and eats, so his not rele tired alot. anyway, bottom line, im 15 and it took me months to get 500 bucks. im simply asking my folks to pay a simple 30 bucks and gimme a ride. they say NO with no reason. is this fair?

Answer 1

Completely fair, is they asked you for 30 bucks of gas money would you give it to them?? Probably not. Just earn 30 more dollars. Be patient

Answer 2

Interesting answers!! here are my thoughts. It is really good that you were able to save what you have so far. Don't get to excited by your folks response. Consider a couple of things. Forget that you are 30 shy of your goal. One person answered in their own way to give to your parents and to not be selfish, although this may not even be considered a thought for you it could pay you more respect and benefits from them because they would b surprised at your gratitude and then you would have to sell it to them. In the long run they would know that you helped out and when the next version of play station came out and if it was not a financial strain then no questions they would help you out.
Option 2. If you are a good kid and listen to then and do your chores and all the crap that good kids do then they may just see it as a waste of money and hey may think that this could be put to better use. But yes my mom works hard sometimes 10 and 12 hour days and she does not look forward to driving around whenn she comes home. It is one thing to be patient with your parents it is another to understand them. There is probably mor to it than being tired or the ride. See what they think and find out why they do not want you to have it. They may think you are on the computer to much as it is and do not get enough exercise. Do you think you would get the same response if you said you were going to buy a bike or exercise machine?

Answer 3

Just because you saved up money from relatives, etc. does not entitle you to have your father jump up and drive you to the store and give you $30 for a game system. Maybe if you had been more fair to your parents and asked if you could do chores around the house to earn the rest of the money then they would have been more open to it.

It sounds like you are having a temper tantrum. You waited this long to get the PS3 so what's a little more time. Your father works 10 hours a day!!! That's alot and then he comes home and has to listen to you complain!?! No he's not lazy. He sounds very respectable. He puts a roof over your head, clothes on your back and feeds you. Give the guy a break and grow up a little!

Answer 4

Well I have a 15 year old sister and this sounds vaguely familiar. First of all, did you ask them to take you right after dinner? Perhaps you should have asked them to take you at a later time instead of immedietely demanding a ride, and for $30 extra.

I'm sure you have plenty of toys, including and obviously a computer, do you really need a PS3? Maybe you should put that chunk of change away for a car. You think asking for $30 bucks and a ride was a pain, try asking for $5000 and a years worth of insurance.

Save your money and play on a friends PS3, they're obsolete in a year or so anyway. Trust me, I was once 15 and very much like you.

Answer 5

Like you have already read... sorry darlin' life is not fair. But, that being said.....

My approach to my son buying games (he's now 30, so his were Nintendo) but he would also save his money to buy them, not nearly as expensive as todays, but I always told him I would buy half :)

He asked me time why???? I told him that gave me a vested interest in ownership. That way, when I wanted him off of it and something done around the house.... he was off of it!!!

Parents don't usually give arbitrarily say NO without an underlaying reason.. you might have to dig for it, but there is usually one.

It might be something as simple as the fact that your dad knows how far that amount of money would go in the household budget, and you spending it on a game seems like a waste to him. But that's parents for you!! And that is when you point out that that is the reason you saved the money yourself.. you realize that this is not something that you felt they should take from household money because you know how hard he works. Maybe offer to repay the 30. See if there are some extra chores that you could do around the place that would work off the debt.

Give him an out. Parents don't like being in a corner... when they feel like their back is against the wall, the best and safest answer is NO.

Answer 6

Ok, so as someone that has worked 10 hours before, it may not seem like a lot. but it is! And it is very tiring. Watching tv and eating, that's not "doing stuff" that's being lazy around the house, resting. Going out to do something, that's more work. Just wait a bit longer until you get the money. Then offer to pay for the whole thing (tax inculded) and gas money too, maybe then they would be more willing.

Answer 7

Congratulations on being so responsible and saving money for something you really want. However, it sounds like you weren't very understanding of your parents' situation. If you're not willing to understand them and what they're going through, why should they spend any time or effort understanding your situation?

It would help if you ask them nicely for the ride to the store. Give them plenty of warning, too - "Dad, I know you're really busy, but would you please drive me to the store on Saturday? It won't take long, and I'd really appreciate it."

As far as the 30 bucks go, did you really ask for it politely, or did you sort of demand it? You need to ask for it politely, and make sure that when you ask for it, you offer to pay it back! Also, do lots of nice things for your parents before asking for these favors, like extra chores.

I know it sucks, but in the end, it's not your parents' responsibility to pay for the taxes on a gaming console, or even to give you a ride to the store. You did such a good job of saving the $500 that I'm sure it won't take you long to save up another $30. At the age of 15, you're old enough to get a part-time job with a work permit. That's not unfair, that's just life.

Answer 8

Your parents are probably hoping that you would be more responsible with the money you've saved. $500 is a lot for any game system. Don't get me wrong, your money, your decision what to do with it. Take a look around you. If your parents had the extra$500, what would they do with it? Pay bills? Fix somethings? They may be thinking that it would be better spent towards a future car. You plan on driving sometime soon right?? At 15, parents want to see more responsible actions than this. This is just what came to mind first for me.

Answer 9

Your Dad is alot older that you, and has to deal with the stresses of a real job and trying to raise a family, that is why he is tired. If you were able to raise 500 then what's another 30 bucks for tax? I say raise the rest of the money and then ask again, but give him some notice.. Like ask him if he can take you in a couple of days.. That way he doesn't feel pressure.

Answer 10

I think you are taking the mick, it makes no difference whether your dad works (ONLY) 10 hours and is tired or not - that doesn't come into it. I would wait a while longer to get the rest of the money together, you have done well at 15 to get 500. I don't think its unreasonable to ask your parents to give you a lift, if they don't then THAT is unfair

Answer 11

Without knowing your parents, I couldn't honestly say whether they're lazy or not. I would probably kick in the 30 bucks if you were my child, and I'd definitely give you a ride. Maybe there's a legitimate reason for not doing this. My advice would be for you to calmly and respectfully ask if there's a reason they don't want to do this for you; then you need to accept their answer whether you like it or not. Who knows, if you show them a little respect, they might end up changing their minds.

Good job on saving the money!