what do you do when you think your boyfriend is going behind your back and doing bad things??

Question

like i've tryed to talk about my feelings and ask him questions like that but he seems he don't wanna answer then other times he say he will NEVER do that! i trust him and all but there's a side i really don't trust well know about. i really don't know what to do anymore!! i love him to death we've together for almost a year now this is my longest relationship ever and i don't wanna screw it up because if i did i would be do depressed and lost. when we talk we share everything with each other like secerts, feelings and so on. it's like we become one and sometimes we can read each other's mind without saying it. i love that! i know he loves me and i love him but some where deep inside i don't think he truely loves me like he says he does but instead of thinking of the negatives i'm gonna think postive! i'm so lost! he's my one and only, everything i've wanted in a guy, he's my heart and soul and most of all i truely love him. so please help me!! give me some info. thanks.

Answer 1

If you asked him and he said he would never do that, try to believe him. I'm not saying be blind and not notice things if it is obvious, just don't hire someone to follow him! :) Not trusting him will surely push him away. But if you have solid proof that he is doing bad things, don't ignore it. Ask him about it and explain why you think he did these things. If he says he didn't, again, believe him. If it turns out he WAS doing these things, then it's not your fault, because you did what you could to find out if he was.

Answer 2

has he acted this way before in the relationship......just because he says he will never do the things you asked him doesnt mean his telling you the truth he may already be doing somthing be hind your back but he may not......i know that you havent been together long and that he is your first true love but some times when you know in your heart there is somthing wrong you could be right about it but you dont really know what it is................does he have msn i could help u out findin what he is hiding from you.....i hope i have helped if u need more advice you can come to me

Answer 3

I know how u feel...it's wat i sometimes feel lately...especially the fact that me n my bf is of different countries.... we're ocean apart... but sumhow no matter how worst thoughts might hav come in ur mind.... think positive....i agree wt some of the commentators below... too much curiosity kills! when we try to think of negative things....it's not healthy..try to trust him n yeah it doesnt mean be blind...but if once u kno the truth..dont try to ignore the obvious... there are times when me n him try to talk things through.... and there i kno how much he really cares.... guys cant help it thinking how much he wud hurt us in the future...that's y sometimes they tend to act weird at times....i've learnt to keep myself not to think about what the future might hold for us...but appreciate what we both have right now.... follow our heart not our instinct... cuz instinct can be our worst enemy.... if we dont think positively...... anyway u take care..good luck wt ur relationship wt him...hope u will be happy always

Answer 4

If you trust him, then there should be no question about whether he did something bad behind your back. If you believe him, then stay with him. Everyone has questions that they don't want to answer. Good luck.

Answer 5

maybe you should separate for a little bit and then when you are ready to fully trust him again then get back together.

Answer 6

my girlfriend would put a system in my car.you should hire someone to install a system in his car that would tell you if he's at another girl house or if he's cheating on you.

Answer 7

it's not even been a year. if he's being sneaky, cut him loose. i thought you were going to say it's been 5 years or so...