I am a separated father of 3 teenagers and my x wife is keeping things somewhat difficult in visiting them. Most of my commnications is txt messaging or long email. I have been separated for about 3 years. I never dated or met anyone that interested me or had not much time. In the past 8 months I have run into someone from philippines and has blossom into a wonderful relationship. The thing is to get her to Canada I will have to spend sometime there and I feel a bit guilty for my kids even though I talk to them on internet and will return. I am in my fifty and trying to think of the future and I am a bit lonely at times, ummm
what to do???
2007-04-10 13:36:36 · 21 answers · asked by uglybird1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK You say separated then you Say ex-wife..If you are divorced Hun live Little...I,am sure your kids being teenagers and all will understand and if I know teenagers there out doing there own thing as well...Don't put your life on hold just for the kids....I mean its great that you are thinking of them great job and that make me so proud to hear there are still a few good men left in the world...But you cant stay down fr ever either...and if this women means that much to you... Knock yourself out....don't feel guilty Hun...if you do then sit your kids down and see what they say....ask them there opinion...They will be honest with you Hun....I will pray for you and your family...and really if this girl means that much to you then get a divorce and move on don't hold onto one and move to the next.....God Bless and ttyl
2007-04-10 13:43:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about getting a divorce before getting in a new relationship so you wife can't tell the kids you are a cheater?
Next, let you children know you have met someone and that you are going to Canada for a while but, that your relationship will not change as you are still going to speak to them on line and on the phone. And send them a ticket to come up and visit you sometimes.
2007-04-10 20:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What the hell are you thinking man! I don't know how hot this philipine chick is, but there must be someone around where you wouldn't have to drive or fly hours just to meet. Just give it more time and you'll see what more fun you could be having. Being 50 now is nothing like being 50 in the old days. You should go out more and try to get your mind off being lonely. Meet someone who can fulfill your needs nearby. You shouldn't have to settle for long distance relationships for comfort. If Tom Leykis is on the radio in you area, listen to him for one week, and you'll know what I'm talking about. Just search Tom Leykis in your area.
2007-04-10 20:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by tinandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I am happy that you decided to move on with your life. Your kids are getting older now and soon they will have to make some changes in their life. What's important is that you continue to be there for your kids when they need you. When you communicate with them let them know that it is important for to spend a lot with them and the reason why its so hard.
Go to the Philippines and meet that girl and make arrangement for her to come to live with you. Why should you live a lonely life? No, your not guilty!
God Bless
2007-04-10 20:44:54 · answer #4 · answered by tony 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you divorced? You called her your "ex", then you said you have been separated for about 3 years. If you aren't divorced yet, it's time you got one. If you are divorced, be cautious about the girl from the Phillipines. She may want a Canadian citizenship and you are her ticket to one. You can always bring her to Canada on a passport or some kind of visitor's pass, and give the romance some time for you to decide. You said you haven't dated either, so you might really be vulnerable. Whatever you decide, I wish you the best.
2007-04-10 20:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by Suzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been separated for three years. You have a right to your happiness.Your teenage children will just have to learn to accept that there is another woman in your life, and that for her sake you might have to spend time away from them. They are old enough to learn this lesson of life.
It's time they realised that everyone's life, including their father's, cannot be centred around them. In fact, you'll do them a huge favour by getting them to realise this by going ahead with your plans.
2007-04-10 20:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by wisdom tooth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go for it. You have been separated for three years so it is obvious that there is no chance that you two would ever get back together. As far as your children, There old enough to understand. You said you keep in touch thru text as well as Internet so continue and follow your heart.
2007-04-10 21:33:56 · answer #7 · answered by lsjcmo3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should stay in this realtionship with this woman. IT's not good to be lonely and even if you don't see your children that much i know that you would still feel bad about going. You can't be single for ever so go into this realtionship and enjoy, your kids should understand that you need to have a romantic realtiionship with someone even if it isn't with your ex.
2007-04-10 20:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by Nikko Zoom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long will you be there? If its for a month or two I vote: not guilty. Anything longer than that you may want to ask their forgiveness.
But either way let them know that you are leaving, you will return and that you love them.
2007-04-10 20:41:39 · answer #9 · answered by dionne m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should go. You deserve happiness and I'm sure your children will understand. You are not being selfish In anyway. Its now time for you to be happy. Its a great feeling when you can wake up each day and actually look forward to something. So go go go, you definatly deserve it.
2007-04-10 20:41:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋