I have a girlfriend she thinks I am moody.Sometimes i would spend the whole day not talking to her.?

Question

Not because i'm mad @ her.We are sharing the same house ,we met lamost 3 weeks ago,she is complaining a lot about my behaviour.Am i fair 2 her? or am i selfish cause she thinks i'm egoistic.

Answer 1

What you don't understand is that your girlfriend wants to hear from you. To a male sex is the most important thing out of relationship, but to a woman it is the opposite; the most important thing for her is the relationship.

She feels that you are holding out on her and that you are not sharing. She thinks that you are mad at her and when you show her that you aren't mad she thinks that you are being moody.

It goes back to the genetic design. A man is designed to have sex as often, as frequently and with as many women as possible. This explains a lot of things about our attitude. In the relationship once the man has sired the child his next most important job is to provide for (hunt) for the child and to protect the mother and her child.

When a caveman hunted he had to be quite and he didn't want a large party with him, but the few he did have had to be his best friends. They had to watch his back and they had to defend him from predators while he concentrated on the hunt. Therefore a man will trust his life to his best friend and he expects him to back him no matter what the problem is. When man started changing the environment to suit himself he stopped evolving so we still have our caveman instincts. Two men can consider themselves best friends and not speak more than a dozen words to each other for a week.

When a woman gets pregnant and has a child she can’t do it alone, she needs the help of her friends. Therefore the most important thing to women is their relationships. They need a good relationship as badly as a man needs sex (and believe me that is a very strong force in our lives). If two women stopped talking with each other for a week (and 12 words is not a conversation) then they would be thinking, “What’s wrong with her, why isn’t she talking with me? What did I do to make her so mad at me? I didn’t do anything wrong she shouldn’t be mad at me. I am going to call her up and give her a piece of my mind.” All these thoughts would occur within 5 minutes of discovering the problem. So you are doing the same thing to her, even though you don’t mean to.

Tell you girlfriend more and listen to her, open up a little more to her and make time to talk with her every day. She needs that and she feels that you are not giving her what she needs. I am talking about instincts so she may not even realize what is going on here.
She needs more than just 12 words a day, and if you can’t find the words then just ask her how her day went.

If you think about it these genetic instincts explain a lot of things. It explains why women seem to talk a lot more then men, they are trying to keep up their relationships. It also explains why they prefer to go to the bathroom in packs, and they like to gather in groups to talk. In fact women use almost twice as many words each week as a man does. This is not because women are gossiping hens it is because they want to keep reinforcing their relationships and they need conversation to do that.

One of the most important things in a man’s life is how he hunts; or his job. If you talk with a man you will learn about his job in the first five minutes of conversation usually. Men are naturally aggressive and want to protect their family. They seem to get jealous easily and over protective. This is not because we are paranoid fools, but because we are responding to our instincts. It also explains why a man can get consumed by his job, at the sacrifice of his friendship and even his family. His instincts tell him to do this.

Now we are reasoning beings we are not a slave to our instincts so we can rise above them. You need to do this and talk more with your partner. If you do then she will be happier and easier to get along with.

When men finish having sex they like to fade off to sleep, but women come down from that high a little slower. So stay up five minutes and cuddle your partner. Tell her that you love her and talk with her a little bit. Those five minutes will improve your sex life and make the both of you happier.

Answer 2

It takes effort to go all day not talking to someone you live with. It's rude and she has a right to be upset or offended. I get moody and like to stop talking for a while, but I owe it to my husband to be civil and say hi and bye...and sometimes just doing that breaks me out of my mood.
3 weeks is nothing and you'll soon find out you aren't right for her, I bet.

Answer 3

as quickly as each few years, i pass on Retreat to a Monastery run by skill of the Trappist priests who've taken the vow of silence . that's the main peacefull adventure for me to spend the day in contemplation without changing lots as a "hi"" to every physique. i stumbled on it to be the way for me to hearken to my inner voice. A spectacular adventure.

Answer 4

Yes i understand what u mean but it is unhealthy for a relationship and it is a high time for a change. if situation persist, she might leave and thats the end of the story. u are a great chap and we can have our own solidarity. but since she is your love, do share 'YOUR' life with her :=) things will be fine then.

Answer 5

is there something she wants to do but you don't want to or don't ask her? gee at least say something to her instead of saying nothing to her for a whole day! How do you think she feels when you don't talk to her?! Girls need to know that their guys love them!
Ask her about why she thinks you're moody-unless you have like multi personality, then there's your answer.
Just talk about it.

Answer 6

you live with her after 3 weeks?

Answer 7

hon I am sorry i don't even understand your question, but if from I think you said if you'll met 3weeks ago and now she lives with you that is CRAZY NO, NO, NO, NO, DO NOT LET A WOMEN/MAN LIVE IN YOUR HOUSE AFTER 3WEEKS OF KNOWING HER WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU!!!!!

Answer 8

3 weeks ago why are you living together?

Answer 9

Good you're preparing for marriage.

Answer 10

You should probably say at least something...."your hair looks nice"