I am a 22 yr old women, and I have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 yrs. I believe that we have grown apart, and I feek like it might be time to move on/out. I have lived with him for 3 yrs. I still love him and care about him more than I can say, but we do not have the same interastes at all. He is a home body and I USE TO BE a very active person. He plays video games pretty much 24-7. I think it might be time to go, but I am scared. I really really don't want to hurt him, and I don't want to move on and then find out I had a good thing. Because he does treat me really great. We just don't have the same intterast any more, and I am not atractted to him any more(Because he has gained confertable weight) I don't know what to do! I don't know how to walk away from 6 yrs.
2007-04-10 11:30:41 · 5 answers · asked by luv_house_elfs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have talked to him about the computer... He is not a dumb person. But thats what he does for fun, like some watch tv, some go to the GYM, some take walks. you can't imagne how many talks I have had him him. Things change for a little bit, maybe a couple of weeks, and then it goes to **** again. I have tried to get him to go to the gym with me and that happened one time, I bought him a bike, because he said bike rideing is fun and he would do it, Again that lasted a couple weeks and now it's been about four or five months since we have riden.
2007-04-10 12:05:23 · update #1
that is horrible :(
before doing anything you might regret, speak to him about it. maybe what you should do is take a vacation. (not together) take some time apart... go out with some friends and see if you miss him.. and if he misses you. maybe you guys are just used to one another. you have to tell him what's on your mind because i don't think he's a mind reader either. you can't walk away without a decent explanation. about the attraction part, well that's tough... if he doesn't get into shape i don't think you will be attracted to him no matter what. and yea some people might say you are being shallow for being that way but you can't help, i know how you feel.. so let him know these things.. maybe you can go to the gym together as couple activity or something.. just try to work it out before moving out. if he doesn't seem to put any effort, well then i say move on!!
2007-04-10 11:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow 6yrs is a long time but if you feel that you have done everything you can think of to means the relationship and there is know hope for it then but friendship then set him down and give him the real deal girl don't wait for it because what will happened is that you'll start fight over some very stupid things like his shoes turned over the wrong way. So just keep it real.
But before you give up and you feel that you still want things to work out start coming up with different ideas that made you'll relationship fun and start doing those things like I said before 6yrs is a long time with one person I mean, take me I was in a 5yrd relationship and now I have been with the same person for almost 10yrs so take it from me make the relationship fun, but if he is not willing to meet you have way then give him the boot!!
2007-04-10 18:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not happy you need to spend time apart. Tell him you feel things have changed and you need to do your own thing for awhile. You have been with your man for a long time and nobody would blame you for going out and being the single women you never got to be.
He might hurt at first but you can't live your relationship being unhappy and wondering if it will ever get better. If he's fat, lazy & un-interesting now think of how bad he would be after you got married.
Six months ago a good friend of mine left her man although her was an amazing guy. They just werent ment to be. She is now doing great in her career and has met another guy who makes her soooo happy.
Be brave and do what your heart is telling you to do. You are too young and life is too short to stick around just b/c "he's a nice guy" There are plenty of driven attractive nice men out there.
Good luck!
2007-04-10 18:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by Cheri H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leaving a relationship is almost never easy, so don't expect it to be. You aren't responsible for his happiness. You are only responsible for your own, and only you can decide if your boyfriend is the person you want to make a life with. Six years is a long time, but if you are unhappy and you leave, your new life will be a little scary and lonely at first, but it will also be exciting. People who play video games all the time are basically brain dead anyway. If you leave he might not even notice.
2007-04-10 18:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AT A TIME LIKE THIS IT IS VERY HARD TO UNDERSTAND
WHAT HAPPEN AND WHY IT HAPPENED. BUT IF THERE
IS A LACK OF INTEREST FOR ONE ANOTHER THEN THERE IS A REAL CONCERN AND NOW WOULD BE
A GOOD TIME TO EVALUATE YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
LIKE THE SAYING GOES " LET HIM GO AND IF IT COMES
BACK IT WAS MEANT TO BE" YOU ARE STILL YOUNG
AND HAVE YOUR WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF YOU..
DON'T SAY 10 YEARS FROM NOW : WELL I SHOULD
OF OR I COULD OF AND SO FORTH ......
TAKE YOUR TIME AND THINK ABOUT IT. ALL YA HAVE
IS TIME........ GOOD LUCK
2007-04-10 18:40:36 · answer #5 · answered by Rosemary M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋