Me and my boyfriend have beeing dating for 6 months. Last saturday he went out drinking with his female friend and ended up spending the night at her place. He said he was too drunk to drive home. They've been friends since they were kids, so i want to trust them. But i'm uncomfortable with the fact that they possibly slept in the same bed. Should i confront him about it or let it go?
2007-04-10 11:22:59 · 30 answers · asked by Nikki B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im sure you already know the answer in your heart. Dont be foolish, the answer is obvious. He has cheated on you.
2007-04-10 11:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I agree with Torrance. I had this happen to me as well, except it didn't work out on her part. But none-the-less this girl still has feeling for your boyfriend and is trying to get you out of the picture. And it seems like your boyfriend is enjoying the attention from her, but he can't have his cake and eat it too. Have you let him know that it's uncomfortable and you don't like it? Did you ask him why he needs help watching his brothers in the first place? Don't be afraid to ask questions, he's your boyfriend and if he wants to keep it that way then he better have some answers. Also if you're comfortable with it, you might want to try talking to the ex-gf and see exactly what her plan is with this whole "friendship". Don't be afraid to talk to either of them, if you've been with your boyfriend for 2 years you deserve some answers. Also don't take any crap from the girl as well, she's obviously trying to weasel her way back into his heart. Take charge and let her know it's NOT happening.
2016-05-17 06:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by pilar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Important fact: alcohol has a negative impact on a guy's ability to get up, get in and get off. Even if they were thinking about doing the nasty, chances are he wasn't capable.
What are you afraid of? The physical act, or the emotional betrayal? Is he acting differently towards you? Could you live with him having an unemotional physical release?
If you can't let it go, you need to discuss it openly, without screaming or crying (that's what makes guys lie, BTW - the fear of tears).
Be prepared for what you'd feel if you found out they did have sex. Think about it now and ptrepare yourself. Shock is the worst part of these things.
Try and separate sex from love, if possible. It is how a guy thinks - he may just have had a physical need and a convenient place to satisfy it, without any emotional attachment.
2007-04-10 11:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by Randy J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should confront him. First of all he is your boyfriend, which means he has made a commitment to you, he shouldn't be out partying with this girl and getting drunk enough to have to stay at her home. If he had to stay there he should never had slept in the same bed as her. Instead he should invite you to go on these little outings with him and his "friend" if he has nothing to hide.
2007-04-10 11:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they've been friends since childhood, they've probably spent many nights the same way.
Just tell him that the next time he needs to sleep over at her house to call you.
Make an agreement based on what you feel comfortable with: that you will pick him up, or that he shoudl invite you out with them, or that he needs to change the type of activities that he and her engage in...whatever you need to do.
2007-04-10 11:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by limendoz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers you then you have to bring it up at the very least. Leaving it unresolved will only nag you until it becomes a real drag on your relationship. If you've been together for six months you should have a fairly stable base and he should be able to take amy questions you ask him in stride. However showing that you don't trust him can lead to alienation so depending on how close you are this may be a real problem.
2007-04-10 11:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he needs to tell you the truth or else this realtionship cant' go much further because u need to know that you can trust him. I think relationships that work depend on trust. Say if this was true and he did it again. This would brake ur heart not once but twice. And if u know that he is lying. Leave him and go for someone else. There are so many other people in this world that would be better to you!!!
2007-04-10 11:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by Coolio JW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eek, this is a toughie. I think you should trust him. I have had the same guy friend since BIRTH! he is like my brother so the cahnce of anything happening is approximately 0%, and thats probably what its like between your guy and his gal friend.
You could contront him, but if you do, you might come off as someone who is overly protective and that could make him mad, just say,
"oh remember the other night when you got drunk? oh yeah did you have fun sleeping over at ______? she's really ______(insert positive comment here)"
then he'll see you have no beef with him or his galpal and he might feel guilty and tell you if he DID do something with her..if you catch my drift..
anyways, good luck with ur bf!
Love, Bev
2007-04-10 11:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by verleybe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him and tell him that you would have picked him up but it isnt cool that he spent the night at her place. Ask him how he would feel if the shoe was on the other foot. If he tells you nothing happened then you can either believe him or not. You will probably never really know but that is your decision what to do.
2007-04-10 11:27:44 · answer #9 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off if you are in a relationship there is NO excuse for for your significant other to be spending the night with anyone of the opposite sex but his mom, sis, or grammy! You'd better say something cause this could turn into a patern that he will expect you to accept!
2007-04-10 11:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by lil~confused~one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should confront him about it, but peacefully. And tell him you are very uncomfortabe with what happened. Tell him you don't mind him being friends with this girl, but if he ever feels too drunk to drive hom, then just tell him you would be more than happy to come pick him up. If he really cares about your feelings, then he will understand.
2007-04-10 11:30:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋