Me and my male best friend crossed the line line last year with each other. We were close friends for about 12 years, we've been flirting with each other for about 6 years, but never had sex. The night we had sex we opened up to each other about out how felt each other and how much we loved each other, then he tells me afterwards that he wasn't ready for a relationship. I was really hurt, why would he sleep with me if he didn't want to be with me?
So for a while I had let it go, and tried not to get mad because i valued our friendship so much, i didn't wanna start problems. But after a while he started ignoring me and stopped returning my phone calls, with no explanation at all.
So last week , I emailed him to let him know how hurt and mad i was. And he never responded back.
So I cut him off.
Do you think I did the right thing?
Why would he just dis me like that after 12 years of friendship?
2007-04-10 11:08:41 · 6 answers · asked by citygirl_1127 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well maybe he really did feel that way about you but got scared. He might have thought that he had ruined your great friendship and if you two went out and then broke up that you would never want to talk to him again. Although now he is ignoring you he might be scared that what you two had done was wrong. Try to talk to him without being angry. Tell him that you would understand if he only wants to be friends and if he wants to be more that you wont be worst enemies if you two some how broke up.
Good luck sweetie!
2007-04-10 11:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st off he is the one who cut you off!! You should have gotten the hint after calling him a few times and he didn't return your call... 2nd of all you did the right thing by letting out your frustration by emailing him now it is time to let it go!! I'm sure your a nice person and you will bounce back even though I know this hurts like hell right now to you just to have someone who was such a close friend do you like that but you know what girly he will get his in the end and even if you don't see it when he gets it you won't need to and who knows maybe he is feeling like if he is around you like normal that might make things harder for the both of you!! With men you never know especially if you let them get your goodies!! Seek all the answers to your questions before you give it up that way you know where you stand and if you get hurt in the end you already knew what it was before you did it!!!
2007-04-10 11:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by Jazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar thing happen to me like that. But we're still friends, and I don't plan on getting together again. Its always hard to tell with guys. I read somewhere that alot of guys really cant be just friends with a girl. I don't think you should cut him off because you have known each other for so long, that maybe your relationship is salvageable, just now you know what your limits are. I can't stand when people just stop talking to me, and i never hear from them again. im pretty sure you don't want to cut him off so don't. just go with it. if he really feels that way he said he does he will come back for you. Maybe he is testing you, to see if you really do love him and would be content, by just waiting for him. guys do weird things. Idont think you should cut him off.
2007-04-10 11:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by gohome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wasnt 12 years of friendship.
He was patient. He wanted you and was willing to wait. But, you can bet he was getting his sex from some one else while he was waiting. Now that he has had you in the sack, he has accomplished what he wanted in life, (you were only a conquest), and he is moving on with his life to a new conquest.
Now, his next love, as long as she doesnt give him sex, he will stay as long as needed in order to get it, just like with you!
You learned, and lived and loved. Now its time to move on also. Pick up you heart from the ground and dont hide it, because the next person who may see you will be looking for that heart to be open and he maybe the one who will take it and love it till death do you part.
I wish you well...
Jesse
2007-04-10 11:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably did love you, in a platonic way. And then he got into the mood and said he just loved you. He had sex with you cause thats what he wanted at the time. And now my guess is that he feels awkward around you cause he got carried away and said things he didn't mean but he knew you meant them. He might come back, he might not but give him space and stop chasing the guy til he can get his head on straight,.
2007-04-10 11:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe only you thought this way and not him.
2007-04-10 11:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋