2007-04-10 10:59:21 · 13 answers · asked by ssmith 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I cant answer for every woman, but I do know it hurt like hell my first time and I bled a lot. The secret is to relax. Maybe have a glass of wine first and make sure your lover is willing to take his time at getting you ready. If he just sticks it in before you are turned on and well lubricated, it will hurt. Even after years of sex it hurts when they try to force it in without getting you turned on first. A considerate lover will spend time kissing and touching you and then you will know you are ready and it wont hurt any more.
Good luck
2007-04-10 11:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not being female, I couldn't say for sure, but common sense says a few things:
- if the guy makes sure you are really wet (preferably having *** at least once), then takes it slow and careful, there isn't any need for much discomfort.
- sounds weird, but a bit of practice with fingers, etc. will stretch you a bit and help you relax. Most of the pain comes from clenched muscles, I think.
- guys need to know that, in order to get that 'repeat business', it's all about custoimer service. Make it good for her and she will *** back for more.
2007-04-10 11:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by Randy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on the guy!! He needs to use lubricate and be very gentle and move very slow!! Also a real way to help you is for him to apply lubricate on his fingers and very easily message ur opening and than hopefully he knows how to use his fingers and he doesn't get rough and hurt you. If he does it right it will turn you on and that will help alot. Than when you will be ready for him to enter. Just tell him so be very easy. It will hurt a little but no too bad if he's very gentle and uses lub. It is normal for u to spot a little blood if your hymen, the little skin that cover the opening, is still intact.
2007-04-10 11:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by sash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It harm some my first time. The preliminary few in's and out's harm the worst and then it replace into over with for the main section, of course i replace into nonetheless in some variety of discomfort and it wasn't as relaxing as I was hoping it could be. even if it relies upon on the girl/woman.. once you're frightened approximately it hurting, try having your considerable different finger you extra in lots of cases previously you certainly have intercourse, which will stretch your muscle mass out some and it will shrink your opportunities/volume of discomfort. have relaxing, be risk-free, and be to blame.
2016-10-21 13:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the woman.... for me it hurt like hell and there was bleeding... a great tool... make sure u r ready to have sex, do it with someone u care about and stay relaxed... it could help alot!
2007-04-10 11:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by airgemm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends; if you are nervous it can hurt like hell, but if you are calm and relaxed, it shouldn't hurt as much. It just depends on whether or not he goes slow or if he pushes right through.
2007-04-10 11:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by Lillian M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It didnt hurt for my first time. It was disappointing because it wasnt what everyone had told me that it would be. You know how they say it is magical and all. BS it sucked.
2007-04-10 11:02:29 · answer #7 · answered by M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try having sex with a carrot first, put some lube on it..and then youll get a lil taste
2007-04-10 11:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by lucky 13 AAnsweroni 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the first time is special. Why ruin it?
2007-04-10 11:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it hurts. Not excruciating but it does hurt.
I hope you're not really young...
2007-04-10 11:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by eliza8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋