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Question

well I'm 14 ( just turned 14 two weeks ago) and when I was 13 I went out with this guy at my school for two months. And I know no one probably wants to know but I'm a freak lol! And umm he was too and he was KINDA pressuring me into having sex with him but I said no because I didnt want to get pregnant and risk getting diseases and I really wasnt ready. But one day he came over to my house and we got a little carried away and we had oral sex! And at first it was like no big deal but now I keep thinking about it and whether I should tell my parents! Because if I told my parents NOW...I'd be in a coffin in a second! And I was thinking about the risk of stds and ghonnorea and all that stuff but I prayed to God and asked him to not make me do something I'll regret and that i wont any diseases... Well the diseases part was ok but now I'm starting to regret what I did with him. And I'm a christian and I looove God but I dont wanna be a sinner and have God hate me and I hope he knows that

I'm REALLY sorry and if I told my parents when I'm waaay older would that be a good thing to do, because I dont want to be killed lol and I dont wanna hurt my parents... what should I do!!!??

Answer 1

First of all there's nothing in the Bible about oral sex good or bad..... but I would think if it was bad... I would have been included in the sins or something. First of all you have to be commended on not having sex both for the risk of getting pregnant and diseases. Well everyone will jump up and down about HIV.... actually there are many other diseases that are much more common than HIV. I always think it's funny how people say I'm HIV maybe while considering there are about 15 other diseases that are much more easier to get and have a higher number of infected people.... I'm thinking maybe those are the ones you need to be worried about. Just as an example HIV does not pass as readily through oral sex but other diseases like hepatitis can pass by oral much easier.

First of all going to tell your parents... and even when you're older.... they're probably some things parents just don't need to know. Now if this guy was pressuring you or forcing you you need to tell your parents immediately.

Anyone having oral sex with the guy that they're not quite sure about.... don't forget you can still use a condom and give oral... it may not taste great (but they do make cherry flavored ones) but better a little bad taste then some disease.

God doesn't hate you because you had oral sex... Like I said it's not even mentioned in the Bible. This is in the past.... its history.... talk about his experience. Don't get a lone with this guy again if you don't want to do this type of thing. Always be safe and careful like you have been.


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Answer 2

Your young and dumb it comes with the territory. People do this thing all the time, doesn't make it right, but also doesn't make it wrong. This stuff happens because your poor self is dealing with a load of neglect. For one if your parents were more in your life, you'd never have the opurtinity. Two if you had good god-fearing friends, they'd ride you about this stupid mistake. Three if you actual had a church that helps you out, you wouldn't feel this was the only way to get that wonderful male attention. Four if you were a little bit more educated you would of realize you start somewhere else instead of with someone else. Five you know that if your going to have this sort of fun, find the right kind of guy! Now you've experience something intense and its going to be harder on you not to think about, not to want it, and not to push everything else out of your way to get it. Sex like a lot of things can be a drug.... hope you don't enjoy to much....