I had been with him for about a year and we both had a very strong feeling for each ohter we had broken up before but shortly got back together. I still love him alot and he says that he still has feelings but doesnt know about a relationship he wants to be friends with benefits.
2007-04-10 10:46:53 · 15 answers · asked by olivia p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HELL NO.
You are MORE than just a piece of meat.
You deserve to be more than that.
Tell him if he really loves you, he won't treat you with such disrespect like that.
It's either you are his girlfriend or not.
He can't have his cake and eat it too.
He can't take advantage of you like this.
You may feel that it's okay NOW... but you will only end up hurting yourself a hell of a lot more.
This is dangerous territory.
If he wants you, he has to be in a relationship with you.
If not, there's someone who will treat you far better and actually WANT a relationship... rather than just a sexual fling.
Don't let him hurt you and still get what he wants...
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2007-04-10 10:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that you should be friends with benefits. Friends okay, but with the benefits, I don't think so. Sometimes situations like this can become very complicated. Why would you want to subject yourself to this type of situation. Maybe the sex was good, but it seems kind of awkward to be intimate with someone you are trying to get over. Especially with an ex. If you two have feeling for each other still, then why aren't you two together? There must have been something that you were lacking in the relationship, right? That really doesn't make sense that he has feelings for you, but he can do with out the relationship. So in other words he can go out and be with other women without feeling like he's doing wrong because you two are not actually in a relationship. I don't think that is right at all. He has feelings for you still and wants to continue being intimate with you, but he doesn't want the commitment? What's wrong with this picture?
If you can deal with it and not let it affect your feelings then by all means go for it. I for one know that women tend to get emotionally caught up in this type of situations. I was one of those women, thinking that it's all good to still have that connection with my ex, with the possibility that we may get back together. I was wrong and ended up getting hurt. I tried to tell myself to not get caught up in the whole intimacy deal, and my feelings remained the same. He was going to strip bars and when he got horny would come over and leave after it was over.
Whatever you decide to do sweetie, just don't get caught up in it. I think that men have an easier time to not get caught up in it emotionally. Take Care!!!
2007-04-10 11:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kiki'sgirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does not sound fair unless you want that too..If you want to have fun without getting involved thats different but since you have developed feelings you may find it difficult.. You will get hurt in the process. You should ask yourself what you want from this relationship.. if you want more than this you should tell him so and move on.. You will find a better person .. maybe stay away from him for some time until he realizes what he wants.. If he truly still has feelings he will come back to u.. If not, its his loss ..
2007-04-10 11:06:51 · answer #3 · answered by sweet pill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K. No relationship No benefits. Wonder just how many other girls he is getting benefits from, and what kind of extra-benefits you'll get from him(STD'S) So, do you think it is worth it and anyway he can't be that GOOD. In the back of your mind you'll be thinking if I do he'll come back and he'll be thinking You're Monday night and he will have someone else lined up for everyday of the week. Remember a guy can be butt ugly and be a stud if he's getting all of these benefits and you will be a wh___!
2007-04-10 11:00:23 · answer #4 · answered by tafaye 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let me tell you from personal experience.
I was with a guy for a year. We broke up. He said he still had feelings for me, and "there's a possibility we'll get back together"...and we kept having sex. He acted as if he really cared. Eventually, I asked if we could get back together. He said no, "not yet". He still wanted sex. Finally, we got into an argument.
He told me never to call him again. He finally fessed up and said he never intended on getting back together with me, he told me that everything he ever told me during our relationship concerning a future for us was bulls**t to get me to shut up. Exact words.
Now imagine hearing those things coming from this guy, to you. That hurt me more than anything he had ever done, including breaking up with me in the first place. And to think, that started with the EXACT same situation you explained.
It's your call, but I don't think going through that is worth the risk. I was young, first boyfriend, naive, and no one told me what was I getting into.
2007-04-10 10:56:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO!!! NO NO NO NO NO!!! ur just gonna hurt urself in the process...move on he doesnt want, care or respect u...he doesnt know about a relationship because he wants to have "fun" with other girls and he doesnt like u enough to be in a relationship anymore...move on and dont hurt urself anymore by dragging urself into this neverending hole of sadness...find a guy who respects u and WANTS to date u
2007-04-10 10:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No way.
He will be using you, and you will have very hard time getting over the feelings you have.
Best to make a clean break, unless you want him to have sex, no commitment and leave you tied up so you don't find a new/better boyfriend!
2007-04-10 10:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by cathoratio 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO freakin way.
He's got the "why buy the cow if you can have the milk for free" mentality.
He doesn't want you, he wants sex from you!
You want him back (you said you have feelings for him) and your heart will just end up getting chewed up and spat out if you remain seeing him like that.
Bad bad idea. And he sounds like a jerk anyways!
2007-04-10 10:51:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you still love him, no. No, no, no... You'll just end out hurt all over again.
If at some point you feel like you're over him emotionally and you like the idea of hooking up, then it's OK
2007-04-10 10:51:56 · answer #9 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No. Friends with benifits? No.
That's just a way for him to get what he wants without any responsibility.
If you love/d him, it will surely hurt you.
Nope. Broke up. Break it off. Just friends is benifit enough.
Good luck.
A~
2007-04-10 10:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by BigMac2xk 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋