i find sex impossible, penetration hurts so much thats i cant do it, please help me!!?

Question

ive been with my boyfriend for a while now but when we try to have sex i cant even bear penetration it does not feel comfortable at all. i am a virgin and im afraid that this will damage my relationship. what can i do i really want to be able to have sex

Answer 1

Since it's the first time, it will be uncomfortable. However, I'm a bit worried that you think it's going to ruin your relationship if you two don't have sex. If he can't wait until you're ready, then you definitely don't want to be with him. There are other things you can do in a relationship besides sex. And, when the time is right, you'll know it and it won't bother you too much.

Answer 2

If you really love him and want this man to be the one you lose your virginity to first make sure you are on the pill or use some protection. I would recommend using a lubricant like ky-jelly which would help you if your dry, and help him to slide it in without really hurting. Tell him to take it slow and easy and try different positions. If your on top of him it may not hurt as much because you can control the depth of him inside you.

Answer 3

You need to practice with some self stimulation first. IE... Fingering also use some lube like KY or something it is going to hurt the first couple times. It will loosen up after a few times and then you will be wanting it all the time. Good Luck. And be Careful.

Answer 4

Well first off if you feel uncomfortable trrying to have sex then don't wait till you know for sure your ready. And if your boyfriend likes you as much as he claims he does then he won't push you into doing something you don't want to. And if not having sex will damage your realtionship than maybe you just need to let him go.Well if you feel any doubts than just don't do it. Trust me don't anything you'll regret. I had to learn the hard way.

Answer 5

you need to get checked out by a gyno. it could be a physical thing but it more sounds like a mental thing. you already seem all worked up about it so that translates to a tense body which is not good for a virgin girl. plus your guy has a lot to do with it. he sounds like he is kind of taking it slow but if he is just trying to jam it in it will always be uncomfortable.

Answer 6

I hear that the hymen breaking hurts, but if it is *that* painful you should see a doctor.

One thing to consider is that touch sensations use nerve paths that are closely parallel. In fact, certain sensations can choke out and block other sensations. For instance pressure will mute pain.

I think pleasurable sensations will also drown out pain. Make sure you get "heated" up before your first time. Foreplay is a good thing.

Answer 7

I realize that you will feel pain, especially the first time. I would suggest a mild pain reliever before or a muscle relaxer, not both. Maybe use some KY jelly, it will help make things a little slippery. Maybe he can be oral on you before also.

Answer 8

well let me say that it does hurt alot. not to skare u or anything but i shed some tears. if he really like you or loves you he should be able to wait until your ready.people will say it dont but they lie or its cuz they like pain. My friend has the same problem but she isn't a virgin and it hurts her every time she does it. I tell her that she should just get it over with but yeah i don't know what to tell you but it is up to you.

Answer 9

Maybe your too young or maybe you're not turned on enough. Foreplay is a very important part of sexual intercourse. It also helps to widen the vaginal walls so that it can be penetrated. Try more foreplay. XD

Answer 10

Go to your OBGYN they will be able to determine if you have a medical problem.There are a lot of reasons for the pain you are experiencing.Good Luck.