if a couple has been dating for 9 years, what will the possibility be for them to get married? and they have been staying in a same apartment for a while. will they able to make it through marriage? will 9 years of dating be too long? will they ever get bored of each other? most people assume that dating period should never exceed 5 years or else the couple will have a huge problem.
can someone please enlighten me about this... thx
2007-04-10 10:33:07 · 8 answers · asked by samantha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can make it only if you want to. Marriage is work, trust, commitment, and you'll find a whole lot of other things.
2007-04-10 10:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
??? Never heard that one.
Dating 9 years!?!!? What's up with that? You two didn't want to get married?
Here's what I know. The majority of failed marriages fail in the first 4 years. If you've been living together, you at least have been getting along. You both have a good idea what you are getting into.
Though marriage does change people/relationships. It should change the relationship for the better. I mean, there is nothing like a solid commitment. You don't just pack you bags and leave like you could if you were just living together.
The problem comes when one or both people think that marriage means they don't have to work at keeping the relationship going. They think now they don't have to help around the house or be civil...
Marriage does not solve problems. If you've got problems in your relationship now, marriage isn't going to make them go away. Marriage will make you feel closer together for the 1st/2nd year, but you will still need to communicate and negotiate just as you have done in the past. And don't be complacent about each others feelings.
I wish you luck.
A~
2007-04-10 17:47:56 · answer #2 · answered by BigMac2xk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where on earth would you get an idea like that? If you have dated for 9 years and not gotten sick of each other why would getting married change that? People who date for such long time as you have been talking about usually do so because one of them does not want to get married. If that is not the case, then you stand a very good chance of having a good marriage. The foundation of any marriage is a firm solution of equal parts trust, communication and friendship. If you have those things, and you love each other, you have a great thing. Time has nothing to do with any of it other than building that foundation takes time, and it sounds like you've already done that part.
2007-04-10 17:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by Irish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five years is pretty short when you compare 15. You can't hurry marriage. Sometimes the best thing at the time is to not get married. What is the hurry?
All couples are different so there is no timeframe.
2007-04-10 17:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely! I know a woman who was with her boyfriend for 17 years before marrying him. Marriage does not have a set time limit. It is all about love and commitment. If you are devoted to your relationship, then there shouldn't be any problems. Don't believe everything you hear. Depend on yourself and your own personal traits. If you and your boyfriend are comfortable and happy together, then what is there to worry about?
XOXO,
Laurie
2007-04-10 17:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by Laurie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there is 4 stages of marriage: dating, more then dating less then engaged, engaged, married....it depends on how old they are...i babysit this one family across the street's kids and they dated from 7th grade unill right after they both finished college to finally married...that was 11 years cuz hers took longer...to me...the couple yur talkin about is in the second stage...they will most likely get married....they are comfertable enough with each other to live with each other which says more about their love for one another. if a couple got bored with each other after 5 years, there would be a 100% divorce rate...myb he doesn't have 100% support on proposing to her from his family yet...myb they want to get more used to her...and i know 9 years...well myb his parents didnt really know her until the 7th year...idk...or myb its the same on her side...myb he asked her father for his blessing to ask her to marry him and he hasnt said yes yet....idk....or myb he is secretly saving money to be able to buy a nice ring...i dont know wat his financial situation is but myb he is doing that....but they will definatly get married sooner or later.
2007-04-10 17:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by Sean Giborty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on people, but in most cases, if the couple gets bored its becos none of them are trying new things to spicy things up. Like, do things she or he wouldnt have expected, surprise them time to time, and do new things in bed sexually....and well, if none of them does this, i mean they will get bored eventually and look for someone else.
2007-04-10 17:38:32 · answer #7 · answered by Marty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if marriage is in your plans then u shouldve made a move long time ago wiseone
2007-04-10 17:37:00 · answer #8 · answered by dipper9stikk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋