Here's my scenario, I am recently off of a 3 year relationship to which I am so happy to get out of. It's been about 2 months, and I'm currently talking to some girl that I work with. Here's the deal. Girl has a boyfriend. Says she doesn't see them going anywhere though. For the last few weeks we've talked every night till about 3 in mornin and have talked about us getting together. Now the situation of sex has come up and I already agreed to do it. We've even set a time and place, but now I don't feel as if I should. I don't want to dissapoint her, and I have a huge hunch she is testing me. I also don't want to be the reason why she leaves the other dude, I need advice on how to tell her that I've changed my mind, but that I still care about her, and will wait for her if she so chooses to be with me. I am having dinner with her tonight, I plan on telling her then. Plz help...
2007-04-10 10:31:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You said it here, now say it to her!
2007-04-10 10:35:48 · answer #1 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her just like you told us. You can tell her you dig her but just say you don't want to be the "back door man" and you don't feel comfortable getting together with her while she is still involved with someone else.
She'll either respect that or flip the ***** switch. If it's the latter, she's probably not the type of person you want to be with anyway because if she cheats on this guy - guess what? - she'll probably cheat on you.
2007-04-10 10:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by mantoothnation 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that u would like to be with her, but dont want to be a knotch in her belt or just a fling because u really like her. Tell her u dont want to make waves with her relationship, and that if she ever breaks it off with him, to let u know.
Simple and sweet.
U r smart not to get involved in a cheating affair.
Its not fair to the other dude and she could end up doing it to u if you end up with her in a serious relationship. She is playing with fire. Its actually pretty slutty of her.
Tell her she cant straddle the fence. Not with u anyway.
Good luck to u.
2007-04-10 10:39:29 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if she dumps her boyfriend and hooks up with you, will she do the same thing to you eventually (screw some guy behind your back before breaking up with you)? Why hasn't she dumped her boyfriend yet? Can she not stand to be without a boyfriend, so she's making sure you are good enough in every way before she breaks up with the first one? Something sounds fishy...
2007-04-10 10:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, she is totally playing you if she had planned to break up with her boy friend don't you think she would have done it already? there is two words you should be telling her see ya.cause if she's doing that with you behind his back don't you think she'd do that to you?
2007-04-10 10:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by Dvet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's willing and you are backing out? .... you're nuts
2007-04-10 10:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by lovesyourdiamond 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋