my sister has a bf and i think he is not suitable for her,i guess he is addicted,but she loves him.how can i prevent this relationship?
2007-04-10 10:28:18 · 26 answers · asked by zoyaaa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BE CAREFUL! I went thru the same kind of situation with my sister... The answer is... You cant do anything but be there for her. Its a lesson that she has to learn on her own... Be careful not to push her away over your disagreements. Its always okay to not encourage what she is doing but make sure its in a good way because she is probably already dealing with alot from the bf. You dont want to push her away and even further towards him. Its a difficult situation but one that will, hopefully work its self out... You just be there for her and to defend her where you can. Good luck!
2007-04-10 10:33:06 · answer #1 · answered by mlcjlrich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't prevent it. Its all her decision. You can tell her how you feel in a non-threatening, non-condeming way once, but after that it is up to her whether she wants to listen or not. I know its hard to watch, but she will need to learn this lesson on her own unfourtunatly. For some, its just part of the grand scheme of things. Besides, if she doesn't learn what she doesn't want, how can she know what she wants?
2007-04-10 17:32:29 · answer #2 · answered by bar_merch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister and i are very close yet i despise some of the creeps she dates. sometimes i thinks he does just to get to my parents and me. just talk to her its her decision let her live her life or she'll understand you and where your comeing from if you talk to her about it. If you still want to get rid of him. Call him up pretending to be her and break up with him and tell him if he calls again you'll call the police (my sister and i have nearly identical voices and we use to trick people on the phone all the time, i've never gone that far but its an idea)
2007-04-10 17:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by *Heather* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel. But ultimately she will have to make the decision. Dont bad mouth him she'll take his side be nice but let her know you are concerned. And don't argue with her about him.
2007-04-10 17:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't and the more you push the issue the more she is going to stick by him. The only thing you can do is let it run it's course. Sooner or later she'll figure out they type of man he is and she'll decide what to do.
2007-04-10 17:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by l_jero 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not your place to try to "prevent" a relationship. however, since she's your sister, you could respectfully tell her that you're concerned about her.
whatever you say, it needs to be about how special SHE is, not how much you don't like HIM. if you talk a bunch of trash about him, and she doesn't ditch him...you're going to be stuck being the unsupportive sister! you don't want to alienate yourself like that, believe me!
2007-04-10 17:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by G is for Grover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are close to your sister then she should listen to you but some siblings will ultimately have to learn the hard way.
2007-04-10 17:32:05 · answer #7 · answered by Big Mak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should sit down and talk to your sister and tell her how you really feel i know i have a sister and i didnt like her bf and i sat down and talked to her and she thought diffrent about him. so just tell her why you think that they shouldnt be together. good luck
marlene
2007-04-10 17:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by marlene k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you can't you jsut have to let her learn on her own Trust me i've been trying to tell my sister about her boyfriend that she doesn't know. Well hope your sister comes to her senses.!!!!!!!
2007-04-10 17:31:58 · answer #9 · answered by iluvsuperman84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you can't. You can point out the warning signs, and express your concerns with love. You can urge her all you want, but you cannot stop her.
2007-04-10 17:32:58 · answer #10 · answered by Irish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋