...and if I am, is it a problem? Well, yes, I know it is. My boyfriend is a lot older than me and he has a really low sex drive. Personally, I could do it at least once a day. But I end up having to take care of myself pretty much daily.
In every other way my boyfriend is perfect. But it goes leave me feeling a little unwanted, unattractive and unsexy.
I've even thought about having a relationship with girl, which is one of my fantasies. And my b/f encourages it, which is great. If she was as highly sexed as me, I could have great fun! Just don't know how to go about meeting a like minded girl.
What goes everyone think of my predicament? Should I just put up with it, and come to terms that I'm not gonna be getting much sex for the rest of my life?
2007-04-10 10:15:50 · 20 answers · asked by SAM S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems like most guys would rather date you then give you advice.... Well you said your boyfriend was a lot older than you but I didn't say how much. But in either case he has a low sex drive. The me take your questions one by one..... first you have a fantasy about being with another female and your boyfriend encourages it. I didn't say whether he encourages it and wants to be part of a threesome. But I'm sure that would make him quite interested in performing.
As someone that has been in a number of threesomes with two women I can tell you It can be a lot of fun. I wouldn't worry about them being as sexual as you... if they're looking for a bi situation then to really be into it anyway. One of my past girlfriends was bi so I never got in trouble for getting on girls.... she would add this is for both of us right? Probably the best web site to look for bi females is AFF dot com this site has been around long time and is known as adult friend finder. They have millions of members .... but make sure you we amount as a lot of guys pose as women.... but I can assure you there a rereal bi women there.
You can and should you just put up with it. That's a bit of a tough one. I guess a fine was a woman like you that was highly sex but really love the guy and was with I would consider a sexual friend. A guy that could be discreet and understanding of my situation. And understood it was for fun only. The problem you're going to have with the bi girl is she may not want to be with your guy. Bi women are much more interested in trying it with another woman alone than with the guy they don't know.
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2007-04-11 19:45:41 · answer #1 · answered by AdviceManHere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it girls with high sex drives meet blokes with low ones and vice versa.
Just remember you only get one life, so if you are happy with your boyfriend then try it. Just a word of warning. What if you fall in love with the fantasy girl of your dreams.
Don't spend years of your life thinking that your b/f's sex drive will improve, it won't. Age shouldn't have anything to do with sex drive. I am 45 and am no differnt to when I was 18, it's probably higher now to be honest.
Have fun with your fantasy girl and hope it becomes real. Maybe you could get your boyfriend to watch, it may improve things between you.
2007-04-10 11:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by martin m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try having more sex b4 you decide you're an addict -- to me, you sound unsatisfied.
And if your man is perfect in every other way, and you love him, you gotta try to help him get his groove back.
I had a similar problem - I have a high sex drive and my g/f (now wife) didn't. I was so deprived that I'd get uncontrollable erections anytime I thought about sex with her. After embarassing myself publicly several times, I decided to really try to help her get sexed.
We started by just being together more - being naked around each other more, playing in bed more, and eventually she got so turned on that her sex drive came alive...
We all got the potential to have kickstart our sex drives -- try the other girl, try everything...
(and if it's a medical issue, cuz he's older, there's lots of diet/exercise changes he can make, herbs he can take -- and if that don't work, ain't no shame if he uses viagra to please you)
2007-04-12 07:48:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only a problem if it puts pressure on your relationships or prevents you from building succesful relationships. I'm very similar myself and have had to ask myself these questions. If that's all good then fear not, it's a great form of exercise and is emotionally bonding for you and your partner. And if you ever become single drop me a line! lol
2007-04-10 10:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by T M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he complaining about it? if not then keep it up! A lot of guys would love that. if you are having random hook ups with random people- cheating, using a lot of porn, watching people and masturbating in public •Compulsive masturbation (self-stimulation) •Multiple affairs (extra-marital affairs) •Multiple or anonymous sexual partners and/or one-night stands •Consistent use of pornography •Unsafe sex •Phone or computer sex (cybersex) •Prostitution or use of prostitutes •Exhibitionism •Obsessive dating through personal ads •Voyeurism (watching others) and/or stalking •Sexual harassment •Molestation/rape Generally, a person with a sex addiction gains little satisfaction from the sexual activity and forms no emotional bond with his or her sex partners. In addition, the problem of sex addiction often leads to feelings of guilt and shame. A sex addict also feels a lack of control over the behavior, despite negative consequences (financial, health, social, and emotional). Is this you?? if not, then your just a really horny girl and there is nothing wrong with that!!!! check out this site:
2016-05-17 05:39:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is ok with you being with another girl there are a few adult meeting sites that introduce people to each other. I know the address of one but i'm not sure if they will let me put it on here.
msg me if you would like the site address i'll let you know.
2007-04-10 10:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to fix your problom!
Well...actually,I shouldn't be saying anything!
Does you boyfriend have a yahoo acount or any account?
If so try to play cyber with him!It's fun!!!!!
2007-04-10 10:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by cindyh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SEX is wrong get over it go to a sex addicts annonymous class group or something . . . good luck!! if you like your boyfriend fr the sex thats the wrong reason if he is perfect stay with him dont be stupid!!!
2007-04-10 10:23:59 · answer #8 · answered by nicole 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, it is not a problem. Truthfully, sex is atleast 1/3 to half of the relationship. and if your missing 1/3 - half of the relationship, maybe its time to move on...
2007-04-10 10:23:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat, if you don't beleve me look in my asked questions. I have also asked this kind of question.
2007-04-10 10:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by Ramesh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋