i have had some bumps in my life and my friends influences and i blew that last few times. Any suggestions for them to trust me again
2007-04-10 07:59:23 · 10 answers · asked by blackshadowbabe33 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i know you really don't want to hear this, but a huge part of gaining trust back is with a lot of time. if you stay in line, do the right things, you will show your parents that you are responsible enough and smart enough to regain their trust. tell them you had a tough past, and you've tried to learn from your mistakes, and you feel extremely sorry for what you've done. say this after you've had a chance to show them you'll try your hardest to be responsible in the future. good luck! i know how you feel.
2007-04-10 08:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by skigrrl66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be my son! My husband and I recently had to have our 18 year old son move out. He was doing things that we didn't approve of and was putting my family in danger. He didn't seem to care that we took his car away from him either. He had to pay almost $700 from damages he's done to his car and is now short on money he was to have used towards his rent when he goes to school in August. He won't even tell us where he is living, other than a general location in town. He hasn't applied for any scholarships to help with his tuition costs and he's now taking public transportation to work. Honestly, I don't think this is affecting him because he's not doing one thing to show us that he wants to improve himself. All I can say to you is to get some new friends. Friends who aren't afraid to tell you that you have been messing up. Find friends who have the same goals in you. And just sit down with your parents and tell them that you know you've messed up and would like to have a second chance with them. Then be a responsible person to gain their trust again. I really hope one day my son will be able to do this with me. Good luck.
2007-04-10 08:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by 2Beagles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to take time of coarse, however depending on what you did in your past (and I will not judge you on it) maybe you can talk to people who found themselves in the same place you did before you realized what you were doing was wrong. If it is drugs or gangs maybe try to talk at a school. You need to show your parents that you not only realize that you made mistakes but that you are working to move forward and away from your mistakes as well. You need to continue to tell them that you love and respect them, and with hard work to mend your past they will give you their trust slowly. The main thing to realize is that they are your parents... and when you mess up they they are going to be the ones hurt the most (next to you), but they still love you... they are your parents and will always love you. Do your best to embrace who you are and learn to love yourself and let that shine through you every day as you move further and further from your mistakes... and most importantly never forget the lessons you have learned from them. Good luck hun. :)
2007-04-10 08:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by shadowsthathunt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know you get to gain it ,of course its going to take a while
and only thing you can do at this point is be a man or woman of your word, the slightest thing will mess you up, being influenced by friends show your weakness to some, all I can suggest at this point is be honest ,say what you mean and mean what you say. Good Luck
2007-04-10 08:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by elizabeth_davis28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay more in the house give more time in being in the house with theme, clean the house, go to church and stay away from drugs probably by Christmas eve you'll find out if you got your parents trust back.
2007-04-10 08:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be responsable. If you have a curfew, do not be late. It will take time and hard work to prove you are trustworthy. Stop hanging out with the "bad influences" and don't blow it again.
2007-04-10 08:06:17 · answer #6 · answered by Jnine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having the same problems, because I been caught up so many time by my aunt(custody), and it's hard for her to believe me know. But we are teenagers so we are entitled to some mistakes, you just have to try to do better than before. And sooner or later they will forgive you.
2007-04-10 08:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by Brownie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is a crucial factor.
Time heals wounds...
You gotta have loads of Patience and allow Time pass to substantiate concrete actions from your side.
2007-04-10 08:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by glitzynicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's up to them. Tell them you know you've had a rough past, and that they have a right to mistrust you, but that you'd like to rebuild their confidence and trust in you. Ask them what you need to do. Then do it.
2007-04-10 08:01:26 · answer #9 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
explain yor self do everthing they say tell up u messed up to give u another chance
2007-04-10 08:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by pakiegirl916 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋