he told me he starting smoking again because of me?

Question

i saw this guy i like about a month ago and i asked him "I thought you quit smoking?" and he was like "I did, but I haven't seen you in awhile so I started again." was this a part of his game or could he have meant it? we had just got done having sex in the backseat of his car behind Home Depot, and after that he took me home. He asked me if i wanted to get a hotel later on and spend the night together, and I told him yes and he said he'd call me an hour later and he never did! i tried to call him and asked him if he still wanted to go, and he said "yeah, but let me call you right back." and he never did! why did he propose a hotel room with me, if he wasn't planning on getting one?

Answer 1

There are so many problems with everything you wrote that I'd like to sit you down and give you a three hour lecture.

Barring that - I will stick to your question.

No. He didn't start smoking again because of you. He never STOPPED smoking in the first place - it's just a line he ran on you.

This guy sounds like a REAL class act. Sex in the backseat of his car at Home Depot? Oh Romeo! Where fore art thou?

Honey - please - for yourself - for me - for America - don't see this idiot anymore.

Answer 2

What a bunch of BS. The guy obviously cannot accept responsibility for his own acts so he will blame anyone and everyone he can. Loser!! The hotel room thing is more BS. He probably asked everyone he met if they would go with him then picked among those who said yes. Don't lower yourself. At your age hormones are raging to have sex. You have to overcome them in order to feel like a worthwhile person otherwise this will keep on happening to you. Have some pride in yourself and dump every loser you know, then you can really start living a worthwhile life. After all, you deserve that.

Answer 3

First of all, based on your statement, you were not the cause of his resuming smoking. People smoke because they like the feeling they get from it...its an addiction after all. It had nothing to do with you.

As for the hotel room, why would he want to pay for a hotel room, when he'd already gotten what he'd wanted in the back seat of his car????

Stay away from this creep....he's a loser.

Answer 4

He's playing you, but he's just not very good at it. I hope you learn how to love yourself and stop accepting such poor treatment. The 'I'll call you right back' line is probably the oldest one in existence. He was making sport of you. There's nothing you can do to change what has already occurred. You only have control over present and future events. Stop taking his calls and ignore the guy. He has demonstrated that he has no respect for you.

Answer 5

Please don't take this the wrong way but, why would he get a hotel room when he can boff you for free? Also, he lied about quitting smoking, he's a jerk and you should leave him alone. You're worth more than a "back seat romp", and if the police catche you then you may have to appear in court to explain why you were commiting a lewd act in public.

Answer 6

That's not true! He started smoking because he chose to. Each person needs to take responsibility for the the choices they make.

When a person is dependent on a substance, the choices they make aren't accurate. I make this statement because I have met and currently work with someone who used to depend on a substance but is trying to get off; it is amazing just how much the dependence is.

Answer 7

Maybe it was just to lift his male ego, thats what i think. Don't waste your time on him, you made one mistake by calling him to ask if it was still on. If he tries that again say yes and ignore him like he did you...yup, paybacks a *****.haha

Answer 8

I recently encountered a very similar scenario. I endured hell while my husband was quitting smoking. He made me feel like every word out of my mouth was annoying, and he practically drove me to drinking. After I endured at least a week of this, I caught him in the smallest white lie imaginable: he lied about dropping something on the floor rather than his foot. I then smelled the most faint aroma of cigarette on his chest. I guessed the brand and strength based on the smell and his taste. And I haven't forced anything about it since. He is the type of person that if you pressure him, he will react like jelly. You know what I mean? He will do the opposite of what you want to force him to do, only because he is opposed to being forced to do things by other people. My aunt also doesn't like that her husband smokes, but she can't force him to do anything either so similar and other reasons. Your husband shouldn't lie, and you should try to make him feel comfortable enough not to lie. Men hate to feel shame. I accepted my husband's independence as an adult, and even though it pains me to think I could lose him to the health risks posed by smoking, smoking is such a hard thing to beat that he is going to have to want to quit. And if you are able to accept his smoking in exchange for him not lying or keeping secrets from you, I think that it would be a good ground for compromise. One lie can lead to many as it did with my husband, even if the lie is whiter than snow. My mother always would tell me that as well. Lying and secrets can jeopardize stability and security along with trust. Emphasize that to him, and be there for him when he's ready to quit. That's only my opinion based on personal experience. Reality is subjective, and I hope you find the answer best suited for your situation. Thank you for the opportunity to respond.

Answer 9

I am a smoker. I can say I am smoking because of someone, but really, it just calms stress and is mainly done because I am addicted. He didn't start up because of you! Trust me!! Tell him to grow up!

Answer 10

He may was going to, but he may be cheating on you with another girl. Or he may got tied up. He could want u also to chase him, Or he may didn't have the money.