Men, I don't think you realize this, but it can be quite intimidating when men harass women, simply because you can most likely empower us. I am not saying we are weak by any means, but you have more strength.
That being said, how do you a guy in his place who constantly likes to bother you, ie. screaming your name when you are around, blocking you, etc. etc. What can you do by yourself, without getting others involved?
Also, if the person was once rude and tries to be nice now, what can you do to surprise them and put them in their place?
2007-04-10 07:04:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I feel for you Reisling. If you try to act "not bothered by him that encourages him. If you do show signs of being annoyed he thinks it's funny. Basically he has the mentality of a twelve year who finds himself in the body of a grown man and now he thinks it great to be a bully. If this is a work place situation ask your supervisor about it and then ask about the number to human resources. Check with the other ladies at work also.(see if you are not the only victim. ) If you don't have a big brother or some Brawny type in your life take some self defense classes , wait for him to mess up again and calmly tell him that you don't think he is funny and nobody else does either and tell him to stop. If he can't take the hint kick him in the groin and say, "oops, did that hurt?" Then walk away. (actually that is the extreme "fantasy" solution)Make sure you cover your bases first, talk to your immediate supervisor, have witnesses of you asking him to stop,(make sure everyone within ear shot hears you, this usually embarrasses a bully, being put in his place 'by a girl') and then when he tries to mess with you , Bingo! As far as being rude then nice just tell him calmly, "Look we all have our bad days, but, all of us don't take them out on our co-workers and then expect to make up for it later. " Good luck and welcome to the world of stupid "adult" tricks.
2007-04-10 07:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by make room for daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is at work, call security and/or notify your manager. This is unacceptable behavior.
If not at work, you could carry a whistle, and use it to drown out such a moron's behavior that borders on assault. Certainly flag down a police officer if one is nearby. The whistle should bring them, or others, to your aid.
Ignoring the rude person is the best policy whenever possible. You are permitted to extend this to when this person suddenly decides to be "nice." It should take a considerable amount of time for your shoulder to thaw out in this situation.
Or, you could say, briefly, "Actions speak louder than words," and see if he follows through.
2007-04-10 07:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Firstly, I am sorry you are experiencing problems with someone who obviously does not respect you.
Anyone screaming your name, physically blocking you, etc needs to be dealt with seriously and it is absolutely okay for you to get someone else involved. You can stand your ground but if someone is determined to wear you down to have control, then it is okay to ask a third party to step in. And if necessary, you can also take legal action against this person. Harassment aint pretty and you need to stay strong, believe in yourself and put this individual well and truly in their place.
As for once being rude, now being nice.....Be nice right back to them as they do not expect this reaction and it will also give them food for thought in regards to their own behaviour.
2007-04-10 07:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by LiverGirl98 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am a very strong dominate woman I don't play games.......
I show them I am strong in mind and soul
Males are like little boys take their favorite toy away and they are hurt.
If harassment is involved walk up to him and tell him what he is doing is called harassment/stalking and 911 can handle that. Give him a smile and walk away
Never show your fear
If you are nice he will not leave you alone, This I know from experience
2007-04-10 07:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If this happens at work, complain to your supervisor or higher up. Call security if needed. You SHOULD get others involved.
If he is trying to be nice now do not stoop to his prior level and be rude to him. DO NOT try to put him in his place or you will be as bad as he was. You could also revert him back to his old ways if you want to act as he did to you.
2007-04-10 07:34:40 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy is a controller,, they tend to be abusive . It starts out slow but always and i do mean always progresses to violence over time. Drop him and move on you deserve to be treated kindly and with respect. This guy has no respect for you at all.
Good luck
willow
2007-04-10 07:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by willow 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
women ask for men to "tone down" because its intimidating to women and then turn around and ask for same pay because they are equal to men... MAKE UP YOUR MIND! women power = stronger soap to clean the dishes.
2007-04-10 07:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Kick him in the nuts.
2007-04-10 08:39:09 · answer #8 · answered by h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋