My daughter's 1st birthday party will be taking place in about 3 months from now. Sadly I recently lost my cousin and his father (my uncle) within the past 4 months (these are close relatives on my dad's side of the family). My original plan was to invite my relatives from both my mom and dad's side of the family to my child's 1st birthday party in July. I am planning to invite my other aunts and cousins from my dad's side. Is it better to send my greiving relatives an invitation too, or should I not send one to them at all. I don't want them to feel hurt (if I do not send them an invite) and I don't want to be rude (if they have no desire to attend). Please help me in this delima.
2007-04-10 06:58:53 · 16 answers · asked by Tacymevol 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Invite them. Then they decide if they are up to it. Maybe they may see it as a great opportunity to spend it with loved ones. I would like to be surrounded by my loved ones. I have a feeling if they go they will end up with a smile they thought they wouldn't get. Enjoy. (My deepest sympathy for your loss)
2007-04-10 07:15:56 · answer #1 · answered by rencar32002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you are WAY overthinking this. The party is roughly 6 months after the loss of your family member. People greive in different ways.
Secondly, it's a first birthday. I know it's a great time, but you may want to trim your list. Turning 1 is a big thing, but you need to think of your little one. Most kids do not do well in large groups of people. If yours loves lots of attention all for her she will be fine. Most kids, however, get overstimulated and have a huge meltdown.
It would be best to invite everyone you want to come. If they want to stay home that's up to them. Most people who are grieving would love the chance to celebrate. A birthday party is a good way to get their mind off the pain. You may still hear things like" Too bad our cousin had to miss this." But it would still be best to invite everyone and not just those who are not grieving. Have fun! Take lots of pictures for those who couldn't make it.
2007-04-10 08:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jnine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly right now i think the family should be sticking together more than anything!! so yes i would send them and invite, i mean you are just doing your part and if they decide to come then great, but if they dont at least you invited. it really wouldnt look right if you didnt invite them at all, i mean the party is for your daughter(someone who doesnt understand what is going on) so i dont see why they wouldnt be there for her. im sorry about your but now that they are no longer with yall, you need to focus on the people that are still here!! best of luck and i hope that she has a great birthday!!
2007-04-10 07:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by *Gelli* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds slightly unusual to me.... That being suggested, how close are you to this newborn? Is it a buddy? Is it the son/daughter of an intensive buddy? a baby at your newborn's daycare/college? A neighbor? no matter if i desirous to attend ought to very much remember on how close i replaced into to this newborn. because surely, i do not care what the reason being for any get-at the same time, if it really is with those who i extremely care about, i ought to flow. in the different case, i ought to easily deem it stupid and doubtless no longer attend until eventually I were given the invite for the 2d birthday. ;) (so a strategies as bringing a present, you ought to consistently flow to the "dollar keep" and grab some little toys that would in elementary words value you about $5 entire and be performed with it. i does no longer flow all out.)
2016-12-03 19:19:27 · answer #4 · answered by quartermon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it best to invite them. The birthday party of a great grandchild is reason to celebrate and might just be the medicine they need to take their focus off of their recent losses. You should contact them a week or two prior to the party date and tell them that it will mean a lot to you to attend.
2007-04-10 07:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send the invitation. They will probably enjoy being with family. If they turn down the invitation, let them know you completely understand.
2007-04-10 07:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely extend the invite. They need to be around family and celebrate life. It's unfortunate what happened. My prayers are with you. They would feel a deeper hurt if they weren't included. Te best way to recover form a loss is to just continue living.Spend time with them let them know they're not alone and are loved.If they're not up to it that's understandable but at least you tried.
2007-04-10 07:22:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you should invite them. It will give them something joyful to look forward to. If they feel it wouldn't be a good idea they may tell you they can't come don't push it just accept there regrets and let them know there will be other invites later. Hope your baby has a great party
2007-04-10 07:13:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send them an invitation with a special note inside:
I feel it necessary to celebrate this very special occasion
and did not want you to feel any way left out or obligated.
Our family has all felt this tragedy and would like to try and move forward. We hope you will be able to join us.
2007-04-10 07:28:36 · answer #9 · answered by MKM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can either invite everyone from both sides of the family or only the immediate family members or the three of you going away somewhere else.
2007-04-10 07:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋