Oook so, I've been dating a guy for one year and two months *long distance*, at first it was wonderful, talked on the phone daily for hours and hours.. then a few things changed. I started getting hurt easy, I was expecting way too much, so I cheated on him. By cheating I mean kissed someone else. I regreted it, but I blamed it on him.. It wasnt HIS FAULT. Anyway, after that it just went down hill, he told me to give him time, after a few months he turned into the old him, but I've changed... I just feel like I dont love him... But I dont know how I can live my life without him, he's everything I know. I admit I want someone here, who can handle me 24/7.. but it hurts me so bad if I see him hurt.. I just cant handle it.. I really dont know what I want... him.. or something else.. not necesarely another guy. This last week I've been hanging out alot with friends, and he bitches at me saying I ignore him. I was happy with my friends... I USED to be happy with him.. I dont know anymore.
2007-04-10 06:40:56 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We can love alot of things, that doesn't make it right for us. Remember that, besides you've lost the ability to feel like this guy makes you happy (yep thats are work no matter what they do its up to us to descide that, that makes us happy) which means this situation needs to grow into something else, or your going to have find someone else. Because this is also a small matter of you loving yourself more and realizing you deserve more. There is a very, very, very good reason why they say long distance relationships don't work, it isn't to piss you off, its just extremely hard for both parties to get what they need. Theres nothing wrong with you or him, your just human.. sorry but its better to have a natural growing apart as oppose to you cheating or him cheating hard to the core the next time. Just realise it takes more then love to make a situation to work, had it been all you needed, it never would of got to this point. The situation has to be true for the both of you, or else the love well just fizzle out... could of been worse... try and maintain a good friendship thou its hard in this day and age to have good people that you share a common history with. Besides it says something about two individuals that can still feel happy for each other, and therfor themselves, by watching someone else they've loved and care about be happy. Its a pretty grown up relationship at that point... anyone can do the earlier, but it takes special people to do the latter....
2007-04-10 07:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that it is going to be a long distance relationship, so it will be unfair to expect him to be by your side 24/7.
He wanted some time as you kissed another man behind his back and you blamed him for not being there for her. It's kinda unreasonable.
You feel that you don't love him, but you can't go on life without him. I think that deep down you still care for him, it's just that you are confused over all of this.
Calm down and think hard. Do you want to continue on in this relationship? Yes, then be prepared that he's no going to be there 24/7 and don't repeat the mistake of cheating on him again.
Hope this helps.
2007-04-13 14:20:42 · answer #2 · answered by AskQns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance never works out. you know that now. so let him get on with his life and tell him its over. Tell him he was your first love and you will always love him but this is not working, and you both deserve to be happy. sugar coat it.
2007-04-10 11:19:30 · answer #3 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋