I had premarital sex and an abortion and I feel no guilt?

Question

In fact, I believe whole heartedly it was meant to be this way and have learned much from the experienced. I feel I am a better person for it. I can never be accepted by Christians for this and many other supposed sins I have commited. Why? I even prayed for guidance and still feel my actions were correct.

Answer 1

A person's conscience, though an inborn part of our design, needs to be properly trained in order to serve us in a capacity that brings blessings from God.

Why would something created by God not work properly? The Bible explains. Because of man’s fall into sin through the disobedience of Adam, sin is said to “rule as king,” compelling men to obey its desires. (Romans 5:12; 6:12) Man’s conscience, which was originally perfect, became warped; the driving force of sin now competes with it. (Romans 7:18-20) This set up the conflict so familiar to us: “I find, then, this law in my case: that when I wish to do what is right, what is bad is present with me. . . . I behold in my members another law warring against the law of my mind and leading me captive to sin’s law that is in my members.”—Romans 7:21-23.

In addition to this inherited weakness, our consciences are also affected by external stimuli. For example, peer pressure evidently distorted or suppressed the consciences of some Nazi SS troops during WWII. (Compare Proverbs 29:25.) Further, feeding the mind on unwholesome things, such as immorality and violence on TV and in movies and books, likewise has an effect. If we are regularly exposed to such things, they will eventually not seem so bad, and our conscience will be weakened. Put differently, “bad associations spoil useful habits.”—1 Corinthians 15:33.

If a person is trained to know and respect the laws of God, his conscience will obviously be a more reliable guide than if he was not so trained. Nevertheless, even a person with understanding and keen appreciation of God’s ways may on occasion still find that because of inherited sin and imperfection, and perhaps external influences, his conscience is not a reliable guide.

What Can We Do?

Can a conscience be changed, made more sensitive to right principles? Yes. Paul counseled Christians that they could “through use have their perceptive powers trained to distinguish both right and wrong.” (Hebrews 5:11-14) Such use and training includes studying the Bible, giving special attention to the perfect model left for us by Jesus Christ. (1 Peter 2:21, 22) Thereafter, as we use our perceptive powers in making decisions, our consciences will steer us away more and more from wrong thoughts and actions and will prod us to do what is honorable and right.

Even so, we must never become self-righteous or say that if something “does not bother my conscience,” it is all right. The proper and safe use of the conscience in imperfect humans can be illustrated by the cautious practices of a safe driver. When a driver wants to change lanes, he instinctively glances first in his rearview mirror. If he sees a car, he knows that it is unsafe to move to the other lane. However, even if he sees nothing, the prudent driver realizes that there are certain blind spots—not everything can be seen at all times by depending just on the mirror. Therefore, he does not simply look in the mirror. He turns his head to look, making sure the lane is clear before making his move. The same is true of the conscience. If it warns you, heed it! But even when it does not at first sound an alarm, be like the wise motorist—check further to make sure there is no danger.

Examine your thinking to see if it harmonizes with God’s thinking. Use his Word as a sounding board to evaluate your conscience. Proverbs 3:5, 6 wisely says: “Trust in Jehovah with all your heart and do not lean upon your own understanding. In all your ways take notice of him, and he himself will make your paths straight.”

So it is wise to listen to your conscience. But it is wiser still to compare all that we do with God’s will as revealed in his Word. Only then can we say with assurance, “We trust we have an honest conscience.”—Hebrews 13:18; 2 Corinthians 1:12.

Answer 2

To commit mistakes is human if you committed them from ignorance of course.

"In fact, I believe whole heartedly it was meant to be this way and have learned much from the experienced. I feel I am a better person for it." ---- Well my friend, you have already beliefs which are not only against the Bible (OT & NT), but also against most religions of the world.

Thus it is normal that you don't feel any guilt.

You cannot pray for guidance without reading the guidance. They are interdependent. Without knowledge of guidelines, how can you pray for guidance?

If Christians do not accept you later on if you happen to feel guilt for your actions and ask forgiveness for them, then they are not worthy, they are not worthy. If you believe in the new testament, you do not need anybody to live a christian life.

Read and learn the guidelines and the qualities of a christian.

Peace.

Answer 3

From the perspective of a Loving God there is no such thing as sin. Sin is merely a construct of the human mind. The definition of "sin" has constantly changed according to the whims of society.

From the perspective of a Loving God all choices are evaluated against a single criteria, does this act radiate the Love of the Creator?

The answer to this question must come from within yourself. In your heart you will know if this was a loving positive choice that resulted in spiritual growth or a fear based choice that will result in further lessons.

In the end though you can rest in peace with the knowledge that God leaves no soul behind and your true destiny is eventual return to the loving arms of the Creator.

Answer 4

I went through something similar.

In my case, it was not my free will, and I believe it was wrong to be forced to sacrifice, and also to be blamed later. I realized there were reasons this happened, and those problems were meant to be brought out in the open and not hidden any more. Nothing would have been changed or corrected if it hadn't led to a disastrous situation. The sacrifice and persecution I went through was the result of past issues not resolved or forgiven. The message learned was to resolve past issues BEFORE they lead to irreversible disaster and damages. So there has to be forgiveness before there can be understanding, correction and resolution.

I did not understand the sacrifice of Christ until I went through this. I would never have chosen this freely, nor would I ever choose to do it again, or to have another human being suffer the same. I had felt pressured to go through it against my will, similar to rape that is not the victim's choice but is forced by repeated threat until you give in. But because of my experience I believe I can help others to prevent family problems from repeating and incurring worse consequences.

Thank you for sharing. We may have had different experiences, but the ordeal I went through gave me a lot of insights on the patterns, past and future of humanity and the conflict between male and female spiritual forces in trying to reach a harmonious balance. In the meantime, the process has been topsy-turvy and there have been a lot of sacrifices.
Every person and every culture has unique stories of personal sacrifice, recovery, and healing in the process of reaching spiritual maturity, collectively as one humanity.

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I don't think what you and I have experienced excludes us at all, but directly involves us in the global spiritual process. In the end, all issues will be resolved and everyone from every nation and tribe will be of one unified understanding in the spirit of truth. All humans are joined by conscience, so we cannot divide and separate from each other forever. We are meant to be one humanity, one interconnected family of tribal cousins, organized in multiple branches, like a family tree. Whatever we have suffered is both unique to us, and universal to all.

Eventually we have to come to terms with ourselves and each other. What you and I experienced is part of that difficult process of healing and recovery from the past revisited on future generations until all spiritual oppression is ended.

As a human being, you are a child of God, and no one or nothing can ever take that away from you.

Answer 5

You had made a mistake and you used your right as a human to choose abortion, I believe that each person/couple has the right to decide what is best for them instead of being forced to bring a child into the world that they would not care for properly anyway (not saying you would do this, but alot of people because of their religious beliefs do). All sins are equal in the eyes of god (from what Ive heard I dont really practice) so if you keep talking to your god you will be forgiven when your judgement day comes if you ask for it.

Answer 6

Your actions that you have committed are not sin, only in the Christianity, religion is a lifestyle, and they should not judged you until they have walked in your shoes. The only person who tells you that if it was right or wrong is you, and no one else, not me, not them, not even god/goddess/the god...ect, don't worry about the others, do what you think is right, live your life how you see fit.

To be yourself is the only way to live?

Answer 7

All sin is sin. Even Christians sin. I accept you. Every man has fallen short of the glory of God. No one is perfect. You shouldn't worry what Christians would think, worry about what God will think. Don't let so-called Christians bully you into thinking you are a bad person.
Remember, God looks at the intents of the heart, he looks at every situation. If you feel that God guided you do to this, that is your business and no one else's.

Answer 8

Just how do you want to be excepted? Do you want us to rush up to you and praise you for breaking God's Law and feeling to remorse over having done so? We all have sinned. Many Christians have done what you have and MORE. The difference is they see it for what it is REBELLION against God. We have asked for His forgiveness and through the sacrifice of Jesus on the cross we can have it. Your feeling don't matter. God has already spoken on this matter He said it's sin. If you will turn away from it reject it call on Him and His grace He will forgive and give you life. And the Church, to us you will be another child of God saved from the penalty of our sin recreated to be a child of God not of wrath... Jim

Answer 9

Where no law is given there is no condemnation..However in this the dispensation of the fullness of times..Heavenly Father has spoken and said it is murder..Therefore he has now revealed to you his will from this time henceforth if ye was to murder "Ye ought to know no murderer hath eternal life." If ye repent of it with all your heart and realize you have denied a intelligence its right to exist upon this earth then you would understand the evil in most cases of abortion..For one Sexual Immorality is wrong for 2 there a million kinds of child birth protective measures so therefore if ye couldnt be responsible enough to protect yourself then you should of been woman enough to give birth but im also guessing you weren't responsible enough to be a mother none the less you could of gave it up for adoption. you must not of prayed sincere or you would know it is murder or else you not listening to the right voice given the answers. You should pray again and most sincere asking for forgiveness of your hardness of heart.

Answer 10

You don't have to feel guilt. You thought about things, you took time to consider all the facts and options, you c hoose the one you felt was right. There's nothing more you could do.

I am a Christian, I accept you.

I am sure you learned a lot from your experience as we all do.

Guilt right now would be a waste, its done and even if you wished it never happened you couldn't change it. Why torture yourself?

Answer 11

You broke two pretty basic and serious rules of Christianity so isn't it obvious? A Christian would see it as you have killed the life of an innocent child who had the potential to become a fully grown, healthy adult and possibly make a difference to the world. Religion cannot accept abortion because it is too sinful and heartless an act, and only the heartless would feel no guilt; religious or not.