Is this Appropriate to say to a Biracial daughter?

Question

To tell her I love her dark coloring and she looks exotic? How can I prepare a biracial daughter to be the only colored woman in her family since she would probably marry white and her kids would be white and not colored like her. She will be 1/4 Indian from India and the rest white. I want to make sure she doesn't feel bad about being colored.

Answer 1

The fact that you use the word "colored" makes me feel a little sad for your daughter. Its obvious that you don't know her TRUE beauty because you are calling her "colored".

Anywho - what comes from the heart reaches the heart. Be honest with her.

Answer 2

My two daughters are half Caucasian and half Southern Indian, and live in America. They are absolutely gorgeous. You don't need to say anything, really. Hopefully you will spend time with the part of your family that hails from India. If they happen to live in India still and you and your daughter cannot visit, then show her their pictures once in a while and talk about them. Yes, you can tell your daughter that you love her dark coloring BUT DON'T overdo it! Now my five year old daughter thinks she is the most beautiful little girl ever! :o) I have to be very careful to not inflate her ego. The thing is, she hears how beautiful she is from EVERY single person. So does my other daughter. So it isn't my fault!! :oD You should try to get a couple of those cute Indian dresses for little girls. My mother-in-law goes to India a couple times a year and brings back gorgeous dresses for my girls, and when we go to church, they like to wear them. Your daughter would probably look cute in them, too!

Answer 3

Wow, I can't believe that some people are still believing in race.
Race has been scientifically disproved. We are ONE RACE!
Your daughter is not biracial. She is a human being. She is a female wherever you live, American, German...
Why do you care about her skin color? If you don't bring it up then it won't be a problem!
Do you really want to continue the thinking of racist people back from the 18th century or do you want to help spread equality in this world?
Learn about race and you will realize that it is nothing but a cultural concept from the British in the 17th or 18th century.
This concept that they INVENTED was used to justify slavery and the dehumanizing of Black people, Native Americans and even the Irish.

BTW, why are you using the word colored?

Answer 4

my white brother adopted his white wife's first child as a baby who is half native american but you can't see any white in her. they unfortunately have not told her she is bi-racial. they tell her everyone is different and she tans well. the girl is 9 now and i wish they would tell her of her heritage. it's a shame that she doesn't know and the live a lie. furthermore, we found out a couple of years ago that we are metis (french mixed with native american) even though we're white as ghosts. so even if she's adopted, we still share the same heritage. it's so sad.
anyway, i'm not sure exotic is a good word because it implies that she is not from here, that she's different. tell her how proud you are that you made something so beautiful and you're so lucky that she is your daughter. try to focus less on skin colour and more on important things like kindness etc.

Answer 5

Hmmm, your question touches issues that are foundational to the basic question of bi-racialism.

In more developed countries, I think that the color of the skin has very little to do with anything. At least it shouldn't.

If you consider race a thing that must be kept "pure", then you are treading on an issue that is very untenable.

I think that the more you make it an issue by trying to explain it or justify it will do more to make her self conscious of it than anything.

Answer 6

There is so many mixed children in US these days that I don't think this should be a problem. Compliment her on how nice she looks, you don't need to point out her coloring (not that it should be very obvious, she is only 1/4 Indian.)

Answer 7

Tell her the colour of her skin, or her hair, or her eyes are a reminder to her of her heritage.
Every time she sees them, she will be reminded of the proud and magnificent people who came before her, whose legacy is her wonderful hair, eyes, skin, smile.

I grow very little facial hair on my cheeks. This is my legacy of my very very distant ancestors; Genghis Khan's people.
It is the last vestige of my Mongol ancestry.
I am a white Eastern European, but I have one thing to remind me that even on the days when I feel very small, I come from a line of people who did something extraordinary.

Tell your daughter to never forget that she is special. Not superior, but of something very special indeed.

Hopefully these words give some comfort. And I don't sound like I'm barking mad. :)
Cheers.

Answer 8

I never thought of the India people as being another race.
That is a new one.
You can tell her, her parentage is where her unique looks come from. I would show her pictures of India and its people.
I don't think alot more needs to be said except that she is beautiful and you love her and God loves her.

Answer 9

My daughters are half-hispanic, and my oldest once told me she wished she was white like me. I told her that her coloring was beautiful, she looked a golden tan all year, and she won't burn like mommy does. After I got burned really bad a couple of summers ago (even with lotion), she never commented on wanting to be white like mommy again.

Kids are smart. They DO notice this stuff. Just reassure her that you think she's beautiful. Her unique look will be to her advantage as she matures. :o)

Answer 10

In a world where there are many who are bi-racial, why be so concerned? Each and every time she looks in the mirror she will know the truth, and if "you" have a problem with it yourself, it will rub off on her as inferior behavior. Love her, for she is your child and always teach her LOVE has no "color......."