I love my husband, and now I have to convert. But my family is not happy at all and will disconnect ties with me if I go with him. Should I seek divorce :'-) or should I convert and stay with him? In a dilemma. Help
2007-04-10 05:54:09 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You don't have to convert.
It depends on what is important in your relationship. If your religious superstitious beliefs are different than your husbands that shouldn't really affect your feelings toward each other. Religions tend to portray those outside of the religion as evil, and claim that you shouldn't be "unequally yoked", but that's just because religions tend to want their converts to be separated from those of other worldviews.
In reality, religions aren't as important as they want you to think they are. There's no reason why you can't have a relationship with someone with a different worldview. In fact, I doubt you'll find anybody with exactly the same worldview as you anyways. Variety is the spice of life, and if you don't associate with those who believe differently from you, you'll never learn other points of view.
This is yet another reason why religious superstition is so harmful in society.
2007-04-10 05:57:37 · answer #1 · answered by nondescript 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if your husband's religion was that strong, why did he marry you in the first place ? All of that should have been talked through before the marriage.
You claim that you love your husband, and I believe that you do. How much does he live you ? If he's forcing you to do anything against your will to accommodate him, I question his love.
As for your family, relatives are fine, but the marriage comes before anything else. If your family will dis-own you unless they can dictate to you, you're better off without them.
This is one of the reasons that people shouldn't take religion too far. Many marriages are ruined by religion. Many couples madly in love, and would have had wonderful marriages, break up over religion.
If I were in your spot, at the stage it's in right now, I would sit down with my husband and tell him that it's okay for him to attend his church and practice his beliefs, and that he should extend the same courtesy to you. If he refuses, it means that his "god" is far more important to him that you are - - - he never did really love you.
I'm a non-believer. My wife is Lutheran. Our marriage is story-book perfect and still going very strong after fifty-three years.
2007-04-10 13:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you feel what you are to convert to is what you believe, do not.
I will add that if it is a non-Christian faith, stay put and do not convert. For a non-Christian faith is not the direction the Lord would have you to go.
Your parents are not being wise either.
Read 1Corinthians 7 regarding marriage. There are other scriptures but first start there.
2007-04-10 13:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by 1saintofGod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't convert if you don't believe. Living a lie is not going to make you happy, and ultimately will be highly detrimental to your marriage. If your husband insists that you convert... that is a very sad situation. That sounds to me like a bad situation for you to be in.
2007-04-10 14:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by Brian H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your decision to convert should be based on the truth of the religion, not on human relations. Of course, if the issue of faith means little to you, then you should follow your husband since you are married to him.
2007-04-11 00:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by Seraph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take that you've done an Intercommunity marriage.....now if your husband is not of your religion and he wishes you to be convert....see if there is any thing that is forcing him to ask you to convert...if you find out that there is something like that and that is right according to you...go for the conversion and dont worry about your family....they all say that they will disown you but scarcely somebody does that.....But if you think that its your husband's wish for you to get converted and live life according his religion...then you have to check your compatibility with his relilgion.........think over it and then take any decision.....God Bless you.
2007-04-10 13:02:32 · answer #6 · answered by Sam- the "big boss" 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Convert from what to what?
How would God feel about you putting your family above your spiritual walk with Him?
2007-04-10 13:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya y to covert if he love u and u love him than y all this thing by the way .. matter is heart what u want what ur heart want him or ur parents and by the way when u married u was not aware of this .. soory me be u didn't like my way but i m from thoses who like to do what my heart says matter is not ....to convert or not to covert matter is what u losing and what u getting after this converstion
2007-04-10 13:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by mitir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
convert to islam??
do it girl,may Allah guide you and keep you and your husband safe!
try to read from the quran,learn about the way of life,im sure you will decide the right way
i did,and i have no regrets
2007-04-11 04:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose and do what you feel is right.
If your husband wants you to convert, while he will not accept your Faith and tolerate it, I wonder who he loves more!?
After all he knew you weren't of his religion when he married you, isn't it?
Think over that.
Cheers!
ST
2007-04-10 12:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋