this girl is my sister in law and for 7 years she has tried to turn our family against me and my husband against me too. she wont stop. she harasses on myspace and all my emails and has even talked to my friends about me saying lies. i am 6 months pregnant and the stress is kicking in alot. what is it i can do legally?
2007-04-10 05:21:35 · 14 answers · asked by Wendy T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok so this is the sister in law. she emails me nasty emails and her husband says that i made them up. its like she wants everyone to turn against me and i dont know why. her myspace page is blocked but her headline says " i got privacy ha ha ha! its like she is laughing at me because she gets away with all this stuff. and now my inlaws think that i have part in the harassment even though i havent done anything but be nice to her and try to make amends but nothing works. she told my husband that i cheated on him but i never did. its like she wants to ruin my life and i never did anything to her. its like because i exist she is threatened. i feel that i have no peace of mind
2007-04-10 05:34:55 · update #1
this is his sister in law as well. it is his brothers wife. and she has turned them against each other too.
2007-04-10 05:37:28 · update #2
this is his sister in law as well. it is his brothers wife. and she has turned them against each other too.
2007-04-10 05:37:31 · update #3
i live with the parents
2007-04-10 05:38:35 · update #4
the brother in law has turned against me too. he backs her up with the stuff she does and pretends she not doing it. they even hacked into my stuff and changed the info around and brought it to my inlaws saying that i wrote it
2007-04-10 05:47:29 · update #5
i have tried everything. writing letters and inviting her out. presents for her birthday. taking care of her daughter and nothing...
2007-04-10 05:57:09 · update #6
Speak to the police, they will be able to help you. In britian harrasement is a criminal offence.
2007-04-10 05:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first you need to document everything from now one. That means printing it off myspace, saving the phone messages, saving the emails, and when it is done face to face write it down. You will need this as proof. The go to the police station/call them (if you call them look up the police number not 911 unless it is an emergency) bring all that ev. with you. Aske them to file a temporary restraing order. This is only temporary hence the name. To get a "permaint" one you will need to ask the police when you are there how to file for a restraining order they can tell you or you can go to the local courthouse. You will need to go to court to get the restring order. If you uncomftroble with this get a lawyer. When you go to the case you need to bring all the ev. and it will help if you bring reasons why this is harmng you. Such as your baby and other reasons it is harming you. The restraining order will only keep her from contacting you and coming near you. Her talking to your friend can not be legaly stopped but just tell them you have a restring order against her they will get the picture. Now once you have the restraining order you have some responsiblities invluding documenting all harassment (so you can renew the restraining order) and calling the police right away if she gets on your property. Speaking of property depending on the state you liveing you can get a trasspass warrant (or the equvilent in you state) that means she can not come on your property. Ask the police about it when you go to the station. If you get both of these they will be very effective and she will get the message. Sorry if i spelled stuff wrong my spell check isn't working.
2007-04-10 05:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by William 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To say you will never be around here is not realistic. Do you not get that she is just trying to get a reaction and rise out of you? She's doing a good job too! First off, delete your myspace page. The you dont even have to deal with is. Second I would physically write her a letter and make a copy of it for your reference. I would say that you guys haven't been the best of friends but that you hope you can at least be on civil terms for your families sake. You dont have to be best friends. Just get along. You need to be the bigger person and let it go.
2007-04-10 05:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by OohLaLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? Not a lot. You need to be proactive with what you can do though. Change everything. Get rid of Myspace, change your numbers, get new passwords, etc...Let your friends know you're not interested in anything she says or does and if they're your true friends, they'll stick by you. Tell your family you won't be coming around and you're going to hole yourself up for a bit. Just disappear, ya know? Now...if she comes on your property, that's a different story. Also, collect any and all physical evidence you can of the things she's saying. You may be able to get at least a restraining order.
2007-04-10 05:29:06 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. What I would suggest is that if your husband has tried to help and it's failed or family has failed you, it's time to take matters into your own hands. Confront her. Ask her what the problem is. Start documenting EVERYTHING. This way if things really do get out of hand, you have proof. Ask her. Ask what her problem is and bring names into the conversation and things that have been said. Your husband should really step in and resolve this. Your his wife and this is his sister. He should be a man and step up to the plate on this, and if he doesn't, you might have too. Sometimes a bully needs to be stopped. I've already been through this myself with my current significant other. But my ordeal was more severe. His ex gf actually came to my door one night to get him out of my house. It worked only that night; I called the police to get a No Trespassing Order on her. She can't come onto my property or call; and if she does, she goes to jail. But this woman is crazy anyway. But that's the best way to try and stop her if you can.
2007-04-10 05:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can get a order of protection through your county court system, but they will want to hear about threats of physical harm. It will involve all kinds of time and money to lawyers.
A better plan is to just always tell the truth. Her lies will become apparent to everyone. If your husband's family is so easily turned against the two of you, why do you bother with them. Blood ties are not unbreakable. You choose to subject yourself to her lies and harassment. Tell her to stop or you will have nothing further to do with her and her family.
If you are getting harrassed by email, you can report her emails as abuse. Look in the help section of your email provider.
2007-04-10 05:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can call the police and report the vandalism and harassment. If you can write down the license plate number, a description of the car or the minors' physical appearance it will generally help your case. If you know who the students are, you can report their names to the police and ask the police to go to their houses and inform the students' parents. Although the students may know your wife from the public nature of her job, being a teacher doesn't change the vandalism, trespass, and harassment charges that you can bring against the students.
2016-05-17 04:19:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get all the evidence you can in writing or the myspace stuff. maybe you can argue in court she is affecting the health of your child. She needs a real good lesson in manners. I hope it works out for her and for the sake of your baby. Go to the police with your evidence.
2007-04-10 05:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
when she sends you nasty e-mails keep them in a file and then print them,report her on myspace,legally you can get a restraining order but you have to have proof,again that is where printing the e-mails and keeping them in a file comes in,also when she does this show your family then maybe they will believe you and not her,always be nice to her in e-mails and on myspace,and in person,eventually your family will see her for what she trully is.
2007-04-10 05:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, speak to the police. However, nowadays there are so many different forms of harrasment to receive legal advise about!
2007-04-10 05:25:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep a record of the harrassment.....report it to the police....file for a restraing order and send an e-mail to myspace and your e-mail provider about the harrassment....you can also block her from your e-mail and myspace
2007-04-10 05:25:48 · answer #11 · answered by teddybears 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋