Hey every1, here's my story. I have been talking to this chick for about a month now. She has a bf but she tells me she doesn't see them going anywhere. This girl is very sexually open, always talking about her sex life etc. So I told her I like her, and she told me she doesn't cheat bla bla and I was like that's cool. Well, time has gone by, and we're still talking, and she's told me that she's now into me too. Bf is still in the picture. She tells me she sees us going somewhere and we even talk about having an affair together, should I go for it? Is she just using me to get at her bf or do you think she really is considering me? Cuz she's still with him, it's only been about 3 weeks though since we've been seriously flirting.
2007-04-10 05:17:23 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wait and see but she is still with her bf. talk to her about dumping him. if she makes some excuses about why she can't then she's playing you. before you jump in test the water first. you might be all hot for her now but when you jump in the water might turn cold. if you don't understand that here be sure she wants you and not her bf
2007-04-10 05:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's a s**t that gets off on cheating on her boyfriend but she didn't want to appear that easy to you. She led into in gradually so it would seem undeniable fate rather than a weakness on her part. She wants to have sex with you but not leave her boyfriend. She can't be alone for even one day. To see how serious she is, tell her that you can't in good conscience allow her to cheat on him, so she will have to leave him, wait a couple of weeks, and then you'll go out with her. Watch how fast she dumps you because you will have challenged her weakness.
You said it at the beginning. She is very sexually open. It means she will open her legs for anybody and everybody. If you want to be one of the thousands, go for it. If you want monagamy and something more long term, look for someone else.
2007-04-10 12:23:48 · answer #2 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's wrapping you around her little finger, isn't she. Do you really want to be her sloppy seconds. Have more respect for yourself than that. Once the boyfriend is out of the picture then, and only then should you consider even talking to her again.
She could be using you just to get at her boyfriend. That's an important word. Boyfriend. She's using you for something and it will not end well for you.
2007-04-10 12:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, never get emotionally involved. If you like this girl because she's hot and you want to have sex with her, then by all means go for it.
REMEMBER; your a MAN!!!!!! Act like one. You are the predator not the prey. Women don't need to be idolized and put on a pedastal. You need to be self confident enough to know that you don't need ANY woman.
So how do you get that self confidence? JUST DO IT! Tell her that your a man and that you wont see her while she's seeing someone else. If you don't get her angry at you, you don't have her emotionally attrracted to you!!
2007-04-10 12:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by Felipe S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay,
This is how women work:
If you can't have choice number 1 (which is her boyfriend) then mess around with choice number 2 (you). If you are in it for just sex then go for it, but if you think you have any feelings (what so ever) for this girl then DON'T DO IT! She will always want her first choice (her boyfriend) and you will always come second, so don't get caught up. Just have fun!
2007-04-10 12:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by Brinee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably has codependency issues and she's setting up for a new serious relationship so that she can let go of the current one. I am co-dependent and I met my husband the same way. We are very happy. My therapist informed me that many many women have this problem and live perfectly normal lives. You could have a good relationship with her if that's what you are looking for.
2007-04-10 12:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by Rebecca Wagner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could either be playing with fire here, or she's looking for a way out from her current situation. I would say to wait it out and see what happens with them. If nothing ever changes, there's your answer. She doesn't sound too concerned about feelings right now, but i think you do, which is good, so be careful.
2007-04-10 12:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you from experience......if she will cheat on her boyfriend with you, she will cheat on you with another guy! Dont do it. If she really didnt want to be with her bf he would have been out of the picture long before you came around.
2007-04-10 12:20:19 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Yes Im K.A.B's Mommy :)♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! She told you she doesn't cheat but yet she is considering to have an affair with you... Have you ever asked her why she is with him if she doesn't see them going anywhere? I think she is just using you!
2007-04-10 12:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by Nadz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get caught up in the middle, you might end up getting hurt, she sounds to be unstable, she wants you but has a bf, she has a bf but doesnt see herself going anywhere with him...why cant she just let go of that relationship? whats the point of staying?
2007-04-10 12:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by just curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋